i really need help. i've been with my b/f for 7 months and at the begining the love was stronger than ever. but lately(past 4 months) we have been throught alot, like him cheating, splitting up(3x), him doin drugs, and now BABY MOMMA DRAMA!!! but through it all i remained with him(hes seeing a theropist). and now that this girl keeps bothering us he seems more stressed out and so am i. i dont really feel the love like i use to. i know in my heart i love him, but with all this goin on....i wonder...do i still love him? my friend says that we are just coming down from our "honeymoon" stage and that hes really stressed, but i dont know. plz help!!!!!
2006-07-26 20:05:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have met your soulmate, you would know it, trust me. I think the real question should be, does he love you? I don't think anyone who cheats truly loves their partner. Yes, I'm sure he cares about you in his own way, but love involves trust and caring about the other person's feelings. I think you need to work on your self esteem, you shouldn't allow ppl to treat you like that. Even him doing drugs shouldn't be acceptable. This isn't "going through a lot", this is just him behaving badly and treating you like sh*t. You might think you love him b/c you care about him as a human being and friend, but true love can't involve being treated like that. You need to be part of the equation. Don't pick things out about him that you love and just ignore the things he does to you. Why stay in a horrible relationship for years and years? If you feel like this now, do you think it will get any better as the years go by? You can't change ppl. If he feels like he can walk all over you now, he'll still feel that way a year from now. You only have ONE life, you should spend what little time you have on this earth with someone you can be happy with and who loves you as much as you love him.
2006-07-26 20:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow there sweetie you really do have a problem. One thing i am concerned about is the fact that he seems to have a lot of problems and also cheating on you is awful. This can, for sure, put doubts in your head and so it should. Even though he is seeing a therapist he needs to deal with his problems for himself and you should try and remove yourself from this until he finishes with the therapist. I am not really sure he is seeing one as you did not say but believe me, because i have been there, if their is a gut feeling in you listen to it. Maybe give it some time and see what happens with him. I know if must be tough for you because of your BABY MOMMA DRAMA but by staying with him right now you could be adding stress to yourself and you need to put yourself first right now and always. Good luck and i hope everything works out for you.
2006-07-26 20:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by wishyouwerehere1@rogers.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so he's stressed.. HOW r u doing thru all of this?
love has it's ups and down sugar.. you go with the flow or not at all. purely up to you.
It's a hard call to make if you arent in love with him, not just love him, there's a difference.
The one.. you know you dont want to face everyday stuff without talking to him, whether it's just stuff, or just hanging out..
the other.. life goes on, despite the drama, you can remove yourself from it, and not feel guilty..
Take some time off with each other, find the spark.. even if it's a walk in the park.. just some time for yourselves to see if it's still there.. then you will know it's just the stress and drama that's wearing off the "homeymoon" stage.. which btw.. lasts much longer than 2 days..lol
Good luck.. be true to yourself.. and take care
2006-07-26 20:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by Emmy aka Marla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a theory - Law of diminishing return. It applies to every thing. Feelings at the beginning will be stronger and gradually, that will diminish even if the action is the same or even stronger. Mind can keep you happy rather than sex feeding.
2006-07-26 20:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you don´t love him anymore you would know there is 2 different loves there is when you are in love with someone and there is when you love someone.It sounds like you don´t have the in love any more you have the love,and that means you still love him like a friend or somebody close to you.
2006-07-26 20:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband and married him two months later. We will probably be married five years in May. Follow your middle, however I in my view might advise you dwelling with the fellow for approximately 6 months earlier than getting married. I am completely happy in my marriage, however now not all people is that fortunate and what when you married him and he wasn't what you anticipated? Let me realize what occurs. Good good fortune!
2016-08-28 17:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
????????????? leave now.....girl, you have nothing to worry about try being with someone for 9 years and than ask your self if your in love and what to do.you do not need no baby mama drama so if you dont feel the love anymore than leave... good luck
2006-07-26 20:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by girl19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is nothing but a four letter word.... wt matters is do u really wish to spend ur life with him sharing the smiles n the tears....
2006-07-26 20:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you truly love a person if youre accepting everything about him especially his "bad" side .bcoz if you only love what's good in him thats not a real love.
2006-07-26 20:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by jac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"it happens but dont worry everything is goin to be fine wait it works truely"
2006-07-26 20:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋