In real life...?

Question

...dating, mating, marrying...
how much do looks really
matter to YOU? Does your date
have to look like Brad Pitt or
Angelina Jolie before they get
any positive attention from you?
Would you give a Rosanne Barr
or a Kyle Lovett a second glance?

As for me...looks are not a determinating factor when I am deciding whether or not a person deserves my attention. I am drawn to intellgence, a sense of humor, and whether the person seems comfortable with me, and comfortable with themself. I do like a nice smile and pretty eyes, but those are not always included in what some people call "a total package". I try to look at it from my own point of view. I am not an unattractive woman, yet, just as I would not want to be NOT loved, for the way I look, I would also not want to be loved for the way I look. Yes, I will visually appreciate a sexy man, or a sexy woman, but I woulld not pass up a possible great thing, simply based on their looks.

Answer 1

Looks matters not.....although eye candy is nice.....but personality wins with me...hands down.

Answer 2

Well, I personally think that the looks do matter somewhat, because that is what initially attracts you to someone. Beautiful eyes will initially attract you to talk to someone, but if there is no emotion behind those eyes, won't keep you interested very long. A beautiful smile will intrigue you at first, but it is the sense of humor and how easily that person smiles that holds your interest.

It's not necessarily if someone is drop dead gorgeous that causes me to want to give them that second glance, but it is something, one thing.... Visually appealling about that person. "He may not necessarily be attractive to the rest of the world, but there is just something about his smile...." After a while, the physical characteristics tend to matter less and less.

Answer 3

I'd say that looks have mattered to me, although not many of the guys I dated were absolutely gorgeous. I had a friend in High School that was short, ugly, and wore "coke bottle" glasses. He was a lot of fun to be around, and was really funny, but when his interest in me became more than friends, I couldn't return the feelings because of his looks. Soon after he got another girlfriend, and I regretted it. We still remained friends and continued to do lots of things together, but it was hard for me, knowing he had a girlfriend and it wasn't me. I met my husband on the internet. He's not one I'd normally have gone for. I fell in love with him via email and the phone. He a great husband and step-father to my kids. In different circumstances, I'd missed out again!

Answer 4

I think looks are very important in the initial "attraction" phase.

By that I don't mean everyone prefers the same look...some people find certain characteristics attractive that others may not.

Now...getting past looks, the personality is more important.

While looks may be considered the marketing...it's the personality that closes the sale.

Answer 5

Looks do mean a lot, but a person that you might not have approached because they aren't that gorgeous, might start to look better after you start to talk to them...but looks do matter.

Answer 6

looks are not important but then I am not dateing at all now but when younger I had not even thought about looks but it will make a first impretion as long as they are clean and looking after themselves that is the main thng

Answer 7

looks aren't important. age and gravity take care of that so you have to like the person if you want to be with them into old age.

Answer 8

My girl does'nt have to be a supermodel, just has to care about my feelings, and sometimes being superhot can be bad.

Answer 9

my date has to be sexy or else i wont date them bc im a judgemental *****

Answer 10

no because it takes me a while to really love someone