i used to love him but through the years and after all that has happened i fell out of love with him.he has cheated twice,at least that is what i know...and i know i m just staying in the relationship because i love my child.and because of this i kept on giving him the chance he always ask for.am i stupid, a martyr, or am i just doing the right thing? what if i find somebody new...
2006-07-26 19:54:18 · 10 answers · asked by ashlee-fia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not stay for your child, this can cause your kiddo problems...They see, they know when something is up. If your not happy and your husband is cheating, time to find someone who will love and take care of mama for a change
2006-07-26 20:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing would be to make sure your child's mother is happy. If you're not happy in the relationship, your child can see that, and that's shaping his/her attitudes towards marriage and relationships for life. If you feel there is still a spark of love on both sides, try getting some counselling. If not, I think it would be best to go your separate ways. Mothers tend to give their entire souls to their husbands and children. They don't stop to think that it's hard for ppl to respect a hollow shell of a human being and they begin to be trampled on by the ppl they love. It's not right, but that's usually what happens. Try to get involved in something you love to do, or used to love a long time ago. Your child will love and respect you all the more if they see you as a complete person instead of just a mother. You need to find yourself again, and once you do you should start looking for a new partner!
2006-07-27 03:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think it is better for your child to stay in a marriage where one spouse doesn't respect the other? What are you teaching your child about love and marriage? How about when your child is older and learns what daddy has been up to? Will that be a nice thing? Sometimes the child is better of in a divorce - even if they have a lower income due to divorce.
2006-07-27 03:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD i just hate it when people say they are staying for 'the child'. the child is being severely hurt by the lack of love and hostility in the family. you're staying for your own fearful/stupid reasons and hiding behind your child so you don't have to face being responsible and getting some GUTS to deal with or LEAVE your partner.
try counseling or whatever else might help your failed marriage then LEAVE if it doesn't get better. LEAVE FOR YOUR CHILD'S SAKE. living with hate is very unhealthy for a child - i know, I'm from a hateful family and wish mom had left that a**hole years ago.
2006-07-27 03:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by jimrich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my personal opinion is that although one loves their children and always wants the best for them i don't think that staying with the father of your child just because of this is the best idea. in the end the only one that gets hurt is the children because even though you might think they don't know what is going on they're smarter than you think and seeing you two argue and be distance just puts stress on them. and i mean, it's not like if you leave your child isn't going to see their father anymore. i've had friends who's parents were in this situation and it didn't end well, but everyone is different and who knows, it might work out and it might not, but you just need to think about "might not" situation and if it's really the best for the two of you.
2006-07-27 03:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by ~**IshLey**~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've known several people who stayed in the marriage for "the children". put up a front and they think the kid's don't know anything.they were always miserable and unhappy. I saw this too many times and i always told myself if i ever got married and things did not work out for me and the wife, then it would be time to hit the road, children or not. well, it happened to me. married nine years, two kids, and things went down hill. not only did l leave, but i filed for custody and won!!!!!! so now i found myself a single dad with two young one's , one still in diapers and that was over twenty years ago. kids grown, married and now i have grandkids. you will be better off leaving and hopefully with your kid. its better for your child, and it best for you. trust me on this
2006-07-27 04:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband will love your child regardless if you are married or divorced. To exude love to your child, you must love yourself and being married to someone that you are not in love with is unfair to you and to him. I am not saying to get a divorce, please don't make any hard decisions based on this answer. But, you must close the door for any new doors to open. If you wish to save your marriage and hold true to your vows, seek counseling. Good luck.
2006-07-27 04:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Leslie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can find someone new, then leave, if not stay and bear with it for the sake of your child, but bear in mind you will never be happy in your marriage.
2006-07-27 03:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him if he has cheating on me two times. I left my husband because he fell out love with me and i with him and i have 2 children and i have never been happier too. yes i think you should leave him if he not going to change his attitude with you and the marriage
2006-07-27 03:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should try to see if things get better..stay for your child unless u really feel u have to go
2006-07-27 03:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by track_gurl2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋