Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, and we havent been having much sex lately, he lives 2 hrs away, so I see him once a week and weekends, but he lives with his parents so he now Doesnt have sex at all when were at his house, cause he is afraid that his parents will here (he is 29 by the way) and when hes at mine for a weekend, he only wants it once or twice. He has been stressed lately, but I see on his computer he looks at porn everyday. I want to know what you guys think. as he obviously does have a sex drive, and manages to masterbate daily, but doesnt want to have sex with me much- maybe once or twice a week. I have a very high sex drive and bug him all the time for it, maybe thats whats turning him off? what do you guys think? If your stressed- too much to have sex, do you still masterbate?
2006-07-26 19:52:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Bugging him can turn him off. Also, he may be stressed about pleasing you (i.e. lasting long, that kind of thing). And jerkin it is easier than pleasing you. I don't know, it's a problem. Why can't you guys live closer together? He may be tired and stressed from the drive just to get to you. Try some relaxing massage and music. Or sexy lingerie, or not bringing it up at all, but looking really hot. Anyway, if it doesn't work out, find a man closer to home! (I mean, he is almost thirty still living at home, I hope there is some legit reason for this, like full time school. If not, uhh, this guy doesn't sound like the greatest catch.)
2006-07-26 19:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you found the problem which is pron. Too much is not good, especially for a man. Oh and honey stress never stops a man from wanting some, especially if he still masturbates.
With pron the women are already turned on and ready to go and all that he has left to gratify himself.He doesn't have to worry if he has pleased them cause they always are. He is choosing to masturbate over having sex with you and it is not cool at all. He has desensitized himself. If you can talk to him about this in a very sensitive manner, or try to break him away from it for a little while, or watch it with him. I really don't get how he could choose his hand over the real thing.
Good luck and remember you deserve his full sexual attention
PS try masturbating together, that might help too.
2006-07-26 20:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by shiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetie, sorry that you have to be in this position when you should be with your boyfriend having sex.
i don't want to be negative but could it be that he is off you or has someone else?
Hoping that its not, you have to make him work for it. when it does come for the time of sex, take your time. Play with him try new positions, lick him, tease him, and if you can handle it find an excuse to stop it for a while. If he has the hots for you you will find him running after you like a little mouse.
Don't give into him straight away. Be sexy, loving and caring around him. find ways to tease him without letting him know you want sex.
Let him accidently catch you whilst playing with yourself, xxx :) Enjoy
Its a good thing you r not my girlfriend otherwise we would be doing nothing else ........................
2006-07-26 20:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by MATADOR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys masturbate even with stress. We can't help it.
Talk to him about your needs because communication is essential in a relationship. Make sure he knows what you want but also be ready to hear what he has to say. Ask him is there a reason you aren't having sex as much?
2006-07-26 20:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Brian D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy masturbates, he doesn't have to worry about pleasing anyone else. That's why men do it well after getting into relationships. It's far easier to do it alone than have to worry about things like ridicule, not pleasing her, not getting it up, not performing well, etc. Talk to him about it. DON'T criticize the masturbating. Try to encourage him and maybe you'll have more success in that area.
2006-07-26 20:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you take a long time to climax and he tires out easily. That could be why he refrain from having sex. Another reason is: Go read Animal Husbandry
2006-07-26 19:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by raymondism 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, masturbation is good stress reliever-for both genders. if he is still staying with parents at 29, he is going to cause you more problems than not filling the void in your sex life. he needs to get a life and take care of you. right now, he can't take care of himself.
2006-07-26 19:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has issues.
And I think he is the one you need to be asking bout this.
Porn can become a habit and the more a person uses it the more they are dependent on it. YOu feel betrayed.
Maybe a long distance romance isn't in the cards for you guys.
2006-07-26 19:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha! You said HIS house...when it's his mommy's!
29 and still at home.
If he has that much time to masterbate...he has enough time to get a job and a life.
Geez...try setting some standards.
2006-07-26 19:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's 29 and lives with his parents, prefers masturbation over intimate sex, he has "issues". I say dump him or have him seek help.
2006-07-26 19:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋