any women agree?

Question

In 2 years I went from a size 9/11 to 14/16 and to be honest
I like myself now better. I like the novelty of losing weight but i like myself heavier to be completely honest

why you may ask?

I guess because people treat you differently. Like when you're thin and trying really hard to be pretty, people expect you to be perfect. They expect you to be shallow and self centered

But when you're heavy, people either ignore you, or try to see your "personality" (that you MUST have because you obviously don't care how you look)
People listen to you because they're not looking at your body

by not worrying about being "heavy" I'm being myself....and it's a great feel. I feel sexy, because I know I'm sexy. I'm not like the selfconcsious people who always have to check their make-up or get dressed right after sex.......I do have a low self-esteem......and I don't like my body, but I'm comfortable with my body....because it made me who I am

and not being fake... now that's SEXY

To Candee:

I understand where you are coming from.

But that is why I said "Like when you're thin AND trying really hard to be pretty..."

usually people can tell if you are just naturally a thin person, or if you have to diet and work your *** off for it. And you can tell when someone is TRYING to be pretty. some people are naturally pretty and some people need a lot of work to be.

I'm sorry you felt that I was trying to put anyone else down. I do not envy or hate skinny women, and I do not think I am superior to anyone else because of the hand I was dealt.

Thank you for your concern and for your comment

Answer 1

i don't care if i am thin or heavy. i have fun either way haha

Answer 2

I'm a skinny girl and congratulations on being completely comfortable with your body but i really didn't like some of the things you said. Saying 'when you're thin and trying really hard to be pretty' is totally wrong. Just because you are thin doesn't mean that you are trying to be pretty and perfect and always checking our make-up or getting dressed right after sex. As long as you eat healthy and exercise there is no reason you shouldn't be proud of the way you look...Just don't put other people down to make yourself feel better or just because they don't look like you. Not all thin girls are insecure and looking to impress males.

Answer 3

i haven't yet met a man that likes making out with a twig...I'm a size14-16 .. but very healthy.. muscle weighs more than fat.. and am extremely sexy for a woman thats had 4 kids and has grandkids.. and is only 41... I don't wear make up.. never have .. people either accept me for who I am.. or they can walk the other direction. Sexy is not a look .. its an attitude.

Answer 4

That's great! And being slightly "over-weight" is hot! Besides, being a certain size doesn't guaratee that your in shape. Look at Kyra Knightley. She admits to eating junk food and never working out, and it shows. The girl looks sickly and slouches all of the time. Yay for more cushion for the pushin!

Answer 5

thanks for saying that. For a long time I was desperate because a man (THE man that time) said I had excess here and there and I was unable to get rid of it. So some times after he got rid of me I realized that I am quite OK as I am. Now I accept myself as I am, but I sometimes feel how stupid I was for years that I hated myself. Now as I look at the pictures of my 1st wedding where I was really slim with D-size boobies I feel like crying, but not because I want the same size now, but because my wedding day was the only occasion I felt I was beautiful for long years.

Answer 6

you are kinda confusing me. but i'm heavy and have low self esteem too. alot of ppl i grew up with don't even recognize me when they see me untill i tell them who i am. i went from a size 2 to a size 14 in a yr. i had another son a yr later. i didn't lose any weight after i had my boys, and i hate the way i look in the mirror. my husband says he loves me, and i look fine to him. but i know that's not the truth. because i see him looking at others too. and i get really jealous and upset if i see pictures of past girl friends,his female friends at work, or school. and i know i shouldn't be that way. i need to learn how to love me. but i dont'

Answer 7

I really don't care about the self esteem problems of being heavy, but that's not healthy. You should be not thin or heavy, but medium and you should eat healthy things. Plus, people might not get through your outer body if you heavy.

Answer 8

I like you! Great attitude and you would probably be a very nice person to be around because you are comfortable with yourself and seem to have more on the ball than a lot of people.

Answer 9

Sex is not related to whether you are 9/11 or 14/16. It is concerned to your inherent qualities and mental setup. Age, style of living, opportunities and your readiness of accepting or non-accepting pressurize the sexual instinct to move.

Answer 10

I'm afraid I dont agree. I like to keep myself at a size 32/34 because I want to feel good FOR MYSELF! I excersize and eat right so that I can feel healthy FOR MYSELF! I dont think that every girl who is 'thin' is doing it for others, thats just not the case. I think its every persons responsibility to take the best care of their body's and be in good shape, we only have one body and its our responsibility to keep it healthy (FOR OURSELVES!!!!!)

Answer 11

i say good for you, if it makes you happier. i think people focus too much on size. i think a woman can be pretty and on the heavier side. and being comfortable with yourself radiates sexiness. so more power to ya :)