My parents don't approve; his does. We are going to get married after he finishes school and we've been living together for almost two years. What's the big deal?
2006-07-26 19:08:32 · 11 answers · asked by Shelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am currently living with my partner and I have been for the last 3 or so years. We are also planning to get married.
It is a great idea to live together before you get married - then you find out all of their annoying habits before you pay all of the money to get married.
You need to be comfortable with them if the relationship and marriage are going to work.
My parents never approve either although you still need to listen to them as they are older and wiser than you are!
2006-07-26 19:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Beccygirl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You must have the right reasons to be doing that. Nowadays, it helps to know the person you're about to live with for the rest of your life , but I guess you must consider also of not having children while in the process. I would consider it the adjustment period for both of you before you tie the knot. Compatibility is the answer to successful marriages. Financial stabiality is also another factor . gg
2006-07-27 02:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by geigy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you have lasted that long then to hell with what other's say...I was in that situation a couple of months ago and I will never do it again...like the old saying "why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free" I would at least make him get me an engagement ring...that way you are certain he IS going to marry you after he gets out of school!
2006-07-27 02:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sam V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never marry a person i hadnt lived with first. there are so many things that can ruin a relationship that you dont find out about untill you live toghether. do what you want and what is right for you, not your parents. youre living in a different world than they were, dont let it matter what they think
2006-07-27 02:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Taldeara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you and him happy. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks. This is your life and you can't live it for your parents or for his. I am having the same problem and for the first time in my life I am having to tell my family that I am living my life for me and not them. That is very hard for me but so far I have been able to do it.
2006-07-27 02:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by aprils242001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you feel it is OK then don't worry. Your parents will warm up to it once you get married. Just old fashioned.
2006-07-27 03:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great, that way there isn't such a big shock to the system after the wedding, aside from all the other **** that will eventually cause the demise of your marriage.
2006-07-27 02:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Marlene 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no one on this site that can tell you whether it's ok or not. That depends on your own beliefs. I personally don't see a problem with it. As long as it is what you both want, then go for it.
2006-07-27 03:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by emily_rose_4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, whats the big deal...as long as no child is conceived.
2006-07-27 02:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by chasing rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay - you're not going to hell because of it! Read my question - I just posted one just like yours.
2006-07-27 02:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋