i have known this guy for more than a year and we had to break up a year ago due to me moving and i miss him terrably he treated me better than any one has ever done.. i have dreams about him frequentaly and they feel so real. i wake up almost crying. i told him about my feelings and he sais that he feels bad about the break up and says the break up was hard for him as well but he dosent feel like he is worth this much trouble, and that i always made him happy, he also said he wishes he could ease my mind and make me feel better.. then at the end he sais please know I feel bad about what had happened..
how should i take that?? does he feel the same??? should i just keep trying to get over it?i dont know what to do.
2006-07-26 18:55:53 · 18 answers · asked by jackie84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think for awhile you should just forget him!
I beleive in Destiney... If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was.
I think he loves you and he doesn't want to hurt you.. I don't the reason for the breakup... You can keep hopes but not too much..
Sometimes if you love someone you don't want to hurt them.. With My ex-gf when we broke up i couldn't get over her... but i thought to myself if she with me i couldn't offer what she wanted.. She wanted to get married soon.. want me to leave home.. But I wasn't ready...
Maybe he thinks you would feel better with someone else..
He is really like you? Can you tell the way he speakes???
2006-07-26 19:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sparky12345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He feels bad about what happened! Maybe he's regretting what happened and wants to change it. That happens all the time with couples. It's happened to me. The best thing you can do is ask him how he feels about you, and if he still has feelings. Based on what he says about that you can do two things.
1) If he says he still has feelings for you and wants to be with you then you two should get back together.
2) If he says he still likes you but just doesn't want a relationship (or doesn't think it could be possible) then that is when you should try and forget about it. If he really likes you he will be with you, no matter how far away you live.
2006-07-27 02:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by JoSh - mtspknwildcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the way it sounds to me, he really does feel the same for you as he did way back when, while you two were still going out. and it feels as if he is trying to put himself down because you broke up with him, and he doesnt feel he good enough for you because of that. i dont know how old you guys are or how your relationship used to be, but it sound like you guys were seriously happy with each other. sometimes the other will believe that it wont work,like you two have changed too much since the time you guys were out, but he cant help loving you. so the main thing is to search your own heart and to find whether you really love this guy or now, and if your heart answers true, then look into your mind. your mind can state somethings that the heart wouldnt be able to find, especially in love. if they both show that you really do love him for who he is, and not for his body, then you should begin to find out what he feels for you. keep hanging around him a lot, dont let him think that he isnt worth going back out with, make him feel happy when he is around you. eventually he will see that it is just being around you that makes him happy, and he will lighten up everytime he sees you, as if you are his lighte in the dark places. if everything works out, then you two shouldwork perfectly together. just one thing, do not, and i repeat, do NOT make him feel uncomfortable around you, do not pressure him into doing anything that he would feel uncomfortable doing, or it make mess everything up, and you may never have another chance.
please, if any of this helped you at all, as i really hope it does, then message me. i just hope that i can help you further..
-chris
2006-07-27 02:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by thelordsangel05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hii......
Well....this things do happen and it isnt necessary tht since u hv shifted there cant exist tht LOVE between the 2 of u! I mean to say place really aint a factor if u hv TRUE love wid tht guy!
I mean u guys can still keep in touch via mails,messenger,cell phones or even letters!!! And well I'm sure it wudnt b jst u missing him,even he mite b feeling the same....
If location is the only factor...thts how u can manage it....but if there's some other reasoning behind this...may b personal or professional...i hv gotta know tht to make ne conclusion over it!!!
Adios-Sur
2006-07-27 02:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was the reason for the break up? due to moving? seems not a good reason, since the world is getting smaller and travelling and communications are aso advanced.
to make story short, since 2 of you feel the same after the breakup, make up instead.
take it as a test and the result is obvious . . . you need each another's companionship if not love.
make up and not break up . . . go for it . . . be together again . . .
2006-07-27 02:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by dream_drifter05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you two broke up because it wasn't convenient to maintain the relationship with you moving. Now that you each have a new perspective, maybe it is worth keeping the relationship going. You will both need to trust the other. Let him know that if he ever shows signs of breaking your trust then dump him. no excuses.
Good Luck.
2006-07-27 01:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me that there is something still there between you two. Give it another chance if you feel it is the right thing to do. But if you have any doubts dont go back to him. What ever he said sorry for if it sound like he means it to you id give him another chance if I were you. But take it kinda slow at first to see if you still feel the same about him.
2006-07-27 02:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by 0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why break up if you only moved? If you two were really happy there's no reason why you can't still have a relationship. If that's not something that he will work with than find someone who will!
2006-07-27 02:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by sobefobik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK truthfully long distance realtionships is to hard, cause you are just stressing all dang night ::what is he doing where is he at??
You dont need that in life, Just find someone until that little voice- that you dont know where it comes from- tells you he is the one.
2006-07-27 02:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by mitt w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let go of him, let him know that you don't think it was right to move on and tell him that you really want him back. If it was meant to be, let him know you will be waiting for him if he wants to maek a decision. Let him know that if he leaves the decision in your hands youwill choose him. but don't sound needy, give him space.
Actually the bst thing is to go by your gut. If you want to let go, just let go of hm, but if you want him back, chase him down and let him know what you want.
2006-07-27 02:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋