If you think that a woman is the only one who has the right to choose an abortion....?

Question

why do you think that a man should have to share the responsibilty if she chooses not to abort.

I think abortion is wrong, but I wonder about those who are pro-choice.... how do you justify that a woman gets to choose whether or not to have a baby, but the man has little or no say in the matter... he only has to pony up the money if she chooses to keep the baby.

Just for the record, I am a happily married woman with a child. (married for 18 years)

I have no need to "wrap it up".

I am genuinly curious about how you come to the conclusion that a woman has all the control. After all, if they both chose to have sex and assuming they used birth control and it failed.... if the father wanted the child and was willing to take full responsibility for it.... why should she have all the say? They created the life together.

And for the answers of "its her body", I don't buy that. By participating in sexual relations, she knew that pregnancy was a possibilty.

Scarlett Rose - save your cut and paste Planned Parenting Propaganda for something that it actually relates to. I am not asking should it be legal. Just asking why women are the only one with a choice in the matter.

Answer 1

I actually am pro choice but I do not think that it is just a womans choice. I know a girl who had an abortion without even talking to the man and it devasted the father of that baby. All she had to do was carry the baby and give birth and he would have taken care of it all by himself. To this day he does not trust women and is severly depressed by the thought of his little child that would never have a chance at life because she was selfish. These girls do not understand that the choices they make do not only effect them, they also effect other people. If a man could be there to make the baby than he should have a say in the outcome of the situation. My pregnancy was not planned and I was scared and confused too, still I sat down with my boyfriend and came up with a plan of action together. I guess you could call me semi pro choice if that term exsists..

Answer 2

I think I've heard before that a man can pose a legal argument to keep the baby, which is fine. I think a man should have a say, but at the end of the day, if the woman doesn't want it and the man does, what can really be done? Is it right to force a woman to carry and bear a child against her will? Because make no doubts, no matter how badly the father wants the child, how good of a father he'd be, etc, the WOMAN carries it and brings it into this world. That's a lot of time and stress to inflict on someone who's so opposed to having a child in the firt place that they would resort to abortion.

Why should he have to pay for it? Because it IS his child and babies are expensive. To be fair, fathers aren't the only ones who have to fork over a percentage for the care of their children. My sister-in-law decided two years after the fact that she didn't really want her kid (or husband) and is required to pay child support for her daughter, even though she cares so little that she just passed on her right to summer visitation. In the case of the don't-abort argument, it might be possible that the woman could still be responsible for the financial burden.

On a personal opinion note, if a woman is that unwilling to have a baby, she should be more proactive in trying to prevent it. I know accidents happen, but people still need to be responsible and live up to their actions.

Answer 3

A lot of responsibility falls on the woman after having a baby. Not all the time, but a lot of the time. If the female is not ready to have a baby, then she has to decide what's best for her in the long run.
I do understand, though, how it's not fair to the guy. It's not fair for him to not have a choice, but I--as an abortion counselor--know a lot of couples that mutually decided.

I believe that, in the end, the emotional aspect falls more on the woman than the man. I do NOT, however, approve of the female making the guy pay if he doesn't agree with what she's doing.

And screw anyone who bashes this asker for asking an honest answer. She's looking for opinions, not for someone to be a jerk and insult her. If you don't have anything nice to say, then shut up!!

Answer 4

The man's "choice" came when he chose not to wear a condom, or confirm that his partner was on birth control. He had 50% of the responsibility for the creation of the pregnancy, thus has 50% of the responsibility of the child.

The dark side of your hypothesis is that the man has the right to force a woman to either have an abortion or have a child. Statistically, the woman is going to be the one raising the child. This is why "choice" means to choice to have the child or have an abortion, and why it should be the woman's choice.

Answer 5

The man should be a part of the decision, however, he has to be willing to make the same sacrifices as she is. This means marriage - if you are ready to have a child together, then you are ready to be married. A child is for life, as marriage should be, too.
I am 100% pro-choice - but I do agree that the father should be involved in the choosing.

Answer 6

And that is exactly why an abortion is an abomination in Gods eyes.
Thats the trouble when two unmarried ppl ***** and dont have any morals.
Unmarried ppl should not **** period.
Abortion should never have existed or even thought of, I mean what made anyone think it was okay to kill a child in utero, ina womens body?
You have to be sick in the head to think, okay I will have an abortion, I dont want this kid, so I will pay someone to kill it for me, in the most viscious way as well.
A could be mother will pay someone to kill her unborn baby.
That is sick and twisted in my eyes.
If you arent mature enough to have sex after marriage and follow Gods laws, then abortion would never be.
And really how how is it to obey God?
Not that hard.

Answer 7

takes 2 to tango . 2 to raise and if one is not there to raise the child then i guess money is the next best thing .
besides i guess in a court of law it would be too much in this day and age to pin point who the real dad is in alot of cases .
the whole situation is messed up . in my divorce i stated i wanted my son , not a $$ ammount and i got just that . to me my son is not a dollar ammount he is my son and is priceless , on the rare occasion when i needed money to take him to school his father gave me money . i only asked once and it was to pay for the rental van for 2 days after my van was totaled . i had already forked out $300 for the van and was financially drained . he wrote me a check for the $30 and didnt seem upset or anything .
i am odd when it comes to child support . i see alot of women out there with a bunch of kids , bunch of daddies and the support does not benifit the kids but the moms lifestyle or habits .
would be kinda neat if drug test were mandatory to determine child support !

Answer 8

BECAUSE ITS HER BODY!!!

how would MEN like it if they had to consult with a woman before ejaculation? would never happen.

A woman should be free to talk to the father IF SHE WANTS TO to get his advice and opinion.

But the FACT that the head of the right to life organization is MALE just shows how facist the movement to control womens bodies is...

Answer 9

I think that if a women decides to keep the baby regardless of what the sperm donor would like to do...she probably wouldn't go after him for support anyway...but I could be terribly naive...

you don't wanna pay..... wrap it up!!!

Answer 10

i think that she should discuss her decission with the father because i think he has the right to know.. i know this sounds harsh.. but its her body, and if she feels that she isnt ready for a child.. i think she as the last say