~Ways to become a better comforter to those in pain:
1) don't talk just for the sake of talking
2) don't sermonize by giving pat answers
3) don't accuse or criticize
4) put yourself in the other person's place
5) offer help and encouragement
The best comforters are those who know something about personal suffering.
2006-07-26 17:57:24 · 12 answers · asked by jvbaker06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My the Holy Spirit give you insight on these words.
2006-07-26 18:04:49 · update #1
1) Many times, the best comforter says nothing.
2) Sermonizing is all about he who gives the sermon, not about the person being comforted.
3) The best comforter is impartial and therefore should not accuse or criticize.
4) Don't ever put yourself in the other persons place because that will get you emotionally involved with the topic at hand.
5) I like this one.
A comforter need not be a martyr. I agree with all to a certain extent, besides number 4.
A dog could give someone comfort: they listen, they are impartial, they don't care about wantonly expressed emotions, and they are always there for help(happiness) and encouragement(love).
2006-07-26 18:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda, but some people want to hear criticisim, and some people who don't have a lot of expeirence with personal suffering are very comforting people! Like young kids for example, can be so sweet and comforting. But for the most part I argee with the words. But it depends on who your comforting and why you are comforting them.
2006-07-27 01:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by silverchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can empathize with these points having personally read and comprehended them. I can see why you would want others to understand such words. Keep up the good work!:)
2006-07-27 01:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by linetap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I agree
2006-07-27 00:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by every woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree.
2006-07-27 00:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds right to me.
2006-07-27 00:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by freyas_kin28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great.
Have a nice day.
2006-07-27 00:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well said. i do agree with u. i can add one more. be a good listener.
2006-07-27 01:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i do agree
2006-07-27 03:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Leonardo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. :D
2006-07-27 01:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋