So how does one love themselves if one doesn't like themselves? (A Folow up to Dateable Question)?

Question

From previous question was adviced that I need to first love myself. Okay, how (since I clearly don't). I explored my inner self and found it to be hollow, empty of substance except the years of dellusion, deception, and loss. Told to find what interests me, but how if so numb that i find no enjoyment in things. That if my life is simply about escaping to next moment.

I admit I have big time issues in articulating the point, of my life, my problems, etc. Tried listing it all down in a journal, but told it was depressive to point where i was advised to stop. I Guess i fear I now feed off my numbness or hate of myself to give an emotion, and just don't know how to switch off it without another go around of self harm tries. any ideas?

Answer 1

Some people just hate them selves for many different reasons is not our job judge them. Many people have had problems in their lives at young ages and they've never had the adequate psychological help, Now as adults they hate them selves because they are not happy, obviously because they cannot beat their problems. We need to support them and make them understand they need help. Once they start working with those "ghosts of the past" they start living better and they start loving them selves.

Answer 2

Try loving little pieces at a time, for instance your inability to love yourself is something to love about yourself and laugh at that part of your character with self assurance. A very wise man pointed me in the right direction years ago and it all started with a poem here it is.

THE MAN IN THE GLASS

When you get what you want in your struggle for self
and the world makes you king for a day,
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what THAT man has to say,
For it isn't your father or mother or wife
Whose judgment upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass

Some people might think you're a straight shootn' chum
And call you a wonderful guy
But the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye

He's the fellow to please, never mind all the rest
For he's with you clear to the end
And you've passed your most dangerous difficult test
If the guy in the glass is your friend

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on your back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you've cheated the man in the glass.

Author Unknown

Love and Magic to you
Be Well
And KEEP JOURNALING THROUGH YOUR JOURNEY

Answer 3

YES : START OVER AGAIN! GIVE US ALL A CHANCE TO DO BETTER/PLEASE................. ESPECIALLY ME!!!! I WAS NOT VERY GOOD AT WHAT I DID BUT WE ALL DESERVE ANOTHER CHANCE. NO; I CAN'T ERASE WHAT HAPPENED OR THE MISTAKES I MADE BUT I REALLY WANT AND CAN DO BETTER> IT'S NEVER TOO LATE!!!