My ex and I have lived seperate now for 7 months, after I moved out we kept sleeping with eachother off and on and if it were up to hi, it would have been on the regular. He continued to provide things for me and my children, he would often come over and seemed very depressed and he told me that he screwed up our relationship and he felt like he was just settling with the other woman he had begun to date, he told me he went to california because his father died and when he returned he came straight to me and took me and my kids out and we spent each day together for about the next two weeks, i hadn't heard from him for 3 weeksa and to my shock, i found out on the internet that he had gotten married the month that he went to cali. Ito sort of end this entry, the woman he married is not attractive at all but she is the senior secretary for a major company and he is financially hurting, i know what i think but, i would just like to get an outsiders opinion already knowing he's an #$$hole
2006-07-26 17:42:38 · 10 answers · asked by kat4plaa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't need to lower your standards by telling his wife anything. She will find out everything you think she needs to know in time by another female. This is being said by a female whose gone thru the same type of situation and know what the out come will be. You will get the satisfaction of seeing or hearing about his life falling apart without your lifting a hand to cause it. Be patient and take care of you and your kids by thriving toward a better life without him being around.
2006-07-26 17:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK you obviously know that 1) he is a low-down lying bum, 2) he isn't above a little ex-sex, 3) he is probably living off the new wife's money so he is too lazy to work. Since you already know all of the above you must be seeking confirmation from us. It will be best for you and your kids if you cut him off right now. The two of you being together now and then are sending the wrong message to the kids. Just cut it clean and get on with life.
2006-07-27 01:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess being a woman yes you should, the man obiviously has mixed feelings about what he has done and is having trouble with it so why don't you betray him the way most women do and stab him in the back this will make his life all better won't it and it will also make him want you all the more!
It seems you are just jealous because he did not want you for more than the booty call that you are, so just be glad he even still comes to see you!
2006-07-27 00:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by knowitall4now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....?? He'll always be your children's dad - so he'll always be in your life - in some way. I wouldn't say anything to his wife - he had a chance to develop a relationship with you and he didn't - the reason doesn't matter. Let it go and find another person to go through life with. If I were you, he would definitely be 'off limits'..... He deceived you - so why do you care so much? His wife will figure it out sooner or later. Be classy and let it go..... don't be shocked - nothing surprises me about what men do. By the way - it really doesn't matter if this woman is attractive or not - hard to tell what qualities people find in each other.....
2006-07-27 00:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a committed relationship and he can't provide that. If you keep engaging the relationship when you really don't know him or can't trust him, what can he really do for you and the kids? Even if you say something to her you won't be able to change anything, just stir things up. Try to be more careful in choosing who you give yourself to.
2006-07-27 00:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by fcmarvb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your kids his kids? If not, it's a closed book. And if so, do you want to be married to a man you don't respect? It sounds like he made a decision. He needs to man up and deal with that decision. He has a wife now. Don't become the "other woman."
2006-07-27 00:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont lower your standwards. as well let lieing dogs rest you have children to think of here and it is always the little ones who get hurt over things like this move on it wont be easy but in time you will see. you made the right choice. .my opion?
2006-07-27 01:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never up to you to end a marriage. you need to be honest with yourself and be confident in the fact that you are special and worthy of love from a man that can be faithful to you.dont allow your children to watch you be in this kind of relationship it will only teach them this negative behavior. and the part about him being an a** well didnt you know that when yall separated?
2006-07-27 00:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by emismommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has probally told her your crazy and she won't believe you if you tell her on the rare chace that she does believe you it will just hurt her.. Do yourself a favor move on and forget the loser be glad someone else is stuck with the lieing manipulating cheater...
2006-07-27 00:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a user. He's got her for money and you for sex. What makes you think there aren't other's?
2006-07-27 00:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋