Do you beleive that mother's who don't breastfeed for a year love their kids less than others who did less...

Question

or none at all? Does love come out of titties? I sure didn't feel any love come out of mine when I breastfed for 6 months, just painful letdowns and milk squirting all across the room. Was that the love?

Answer 1

no a bond is formed through interaction and closeness with your child.. there are breast feeders out there that haven't a clue to what loving a child is....

Answer 2

I agree with the other posters - you've got some issues against moms who were able to breastfeed past when you did. I breastfed for 5 months, but also had to supplement as I wasn't making enough. You unfortunately aren't getting the whole picture if you can put such a natural loving thing in such crude terms, but yes, love does come from a woman's breasts when she nurses her child. It can be painful, with help that can usually be fixed. I did have pain, but knowing it was best for my child I pushed on. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and that effects my milk supply, even after I dried up, my son would still nurse. It's called 'non-nutritive' nursing.
As for some of the other posters, I definitely don't want to come off as mean, but some of things being said are only bread of not knowing the truth. You don't have to 'believe' that the breastfeeding bond is stronger, the facts are there, unless of course the bottle feeding mom goes out of her way to try and simulate the skin-to-skin contact and eye-gazing that happens when nursing, as many moms do, in which case, they baby isn't getting the health benefits, but he's certainly getting the bonding.
And, breastfeeding does have a hand in preventing food allergies later in life by not allowing baby's sytem to be sensitized to them. For most breastfeeding moms there are no off limit foods, unless you notice your baby responding badly after nursing and find the culprit. My baby didn't deal too well with dairy, so I cut back on dairy for a while. If you or dad has an allergy, go easy on that food until you know, but again, simply breastfeeding may prevent your baby from having the same allergy.
As for breastfeeding being inconvenient - having done both, I can honestly say I hated having to constantly tote a bottle, water, and formula, or some kind of warming device, cooling device. Whew! When I was breastfeeding all I needed was....me! the only way bottlefeeding is more convenient is when you're not with your child.

Answer 3

My son was a preemie and no matter what the nurses and lactation comsultants did we could not get him to latch on. I pumped for the 10 weeks he was in the hospital and then he went on formula. Women that choose not to breastfeed are not bad mothers or do not love their kids any less that mother's that breastfeed. My mom never breastfed any of us 4 kids and we all survived childhood with nothing worse than Chicken pox and colds. We never felt that we were not loved either. And ACTUALLY the person with the extremely looooong answer is incorrect about the food allergies. Breast feeding can actually INCREASE certain food allergies. None of us 4 kids had ANY food allergies so that is a bunch of bull! Women are cautioned to not eat peanuts while breastfeeding because babies are introduced to the enzymes to the peanuts in the breast milk. And it does not ALWAYS keep women from having periods and ovulating. That is an old wives tale!

Answer 4

Absolutely not! I wanted to breastfeed both times, but my milk was not "potent" enough. They'd be hanging off me all day and still lose weight. So I had to start nursing for 1/2 hour then feed them a 4oz bottle of formula.
With my son I ended up having post partum depression that subsided when I quit nursing. I loved the bonding, but I was so tired and so tired of being the only one that could feed him that I quit and I felt better. And now, 3years and 7years later I couldn't be closer to my kids. I think breastmilk is cheaper, and nutritionally better in a lot of ways and if you can, great, but if you can't don't it doesn't make you a bad parent! Just love them the best you can, and good luck!!

Answer 5

I nursed my first one for 7 months, my second for 5 months, my third for 15 months and my fourth for 24 months. I don't ask my friends whether they nursed their kids or for how long. I am glad to find out if they did, because I believe it's better for the baby, but I'm not gonna wreck a friendship over it!! And I'm not gonna think they are a bad mom because they didn't nurse at all!! In the overall scheme of things, it's a personal decision.
Sounds like you have somebody breathing down you neck about it, though. Maybe you should politely tell them that it's a personal decision and you value their opinion, and you've made a decision based on what works for you and your child.
I want to let you know that I admire you for giving it a chance when it sounds like it was quite uncomfortable for you. I can tell that you do love your child!!

Much Love!!

Answer 6

Um, how old are you? You didn't feel any love when feeding your child? Let me ask you something. When did you find out when you were pregnant? When you could no longer see your feet? Breastfeeding is beneficial healthwise. It prevents many diseases, and yes as you would say, love does come out of "titties" Maybe you should give up that poor child. His future doesn't look too promising having you as a mother.

Answer 7

I breastfed for 6 mos. Weaning was not my choice, it was my kid's choice. That's when my kid began cruising and didn't want to be tied to me. So, out came the sippy cups and soft foods.

You don't define love by how long you breastfeed. Some mothers can't breastfeed. Does that mean they do not love their children?

Answer 8

No, of course not. I do, however, think that a person who constantly obsesses about their inability to nurse for a year has serious insecurity problems.

Also let's not forget the importance of breastfeeding!...

Breast milk is custom made, the perfect nutrition, and therefore the best food for your baby. Because of its chemical makeup, your baby can easily digest and absorb the nutrients.
The antibodies found in breast milk help to fight many infections, including: respiratory, urinary tract, ear, and blood infections. It also improves your child's immune system.
Breast milk helps to prevent food allergies and sensitivities.
Breastfed babies are almost never constipated. They rarely have diarrhea or gas.
Because nursing requires more effort than sucking on a bottle, breastfeeding encourages better, jaw, tooth and palate development. Babies who are breastfed are less likely to get cavities later in childhood.
Breast milk helps to prevent jaundice.
There is a decreased risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), meningitis, ulcerative colitis, Crohn's disease, leukemia, lymphoma, obesity, and juvenile diabetes in breastfed babies.
Breastfeeding appears to increase a child's IQ.
Benefits for Mom
Breastfeeding helps to return your uterus to its normal size and it uses up fat stores.
Breastfeeding burns calories and helps mom to lose weight and get back into shape.
Breastfeeding is convenient. There is no mixing, measuring, and cleaning. There is no advanced planning or packing.
Breastfeeding is economical since there are no bottles, nipples, or formula to buy. And half-emptied bottles or opened cans of formula are never wasted.
There is less odor in baby's spit up and bowel movements.
When mom breastfeeds, she experiences a decreased risk of breast cancer, ovarian cancer, and osteoporosis.
Breastfeeding protects iron stores because it suppresses ovulation and menstruation. But it should NEVER be relied on for birth control.

Answer 9

All of your questions attack breastfeeding mothers. Do you have post-partum depression? You obviously have some anger towards something. As long as you FED your kid, great. Stop harassing people.
Actually, now that I read back into your multiple bitter questions, I can see that you are mad that you had to stop breastfeeding because of your medication and are lashing out at moms that didn't have to stop breastfeeding.
You should seek professional counseling to help you work through your feelings of inadequacy as a mother.

Answer 10

well it shouldn't have been torture and you new what was coming while you had sex . yes that was love you made a new life you are blessed! most peoples baby's could have died or been sick! and they would have been happy to breastfeed a baby. and of course love does not come out of titties! well for the baby it does!

Answer 11

No, it doesn't mean the mother loves their child less. It's a matter of bonding with your baby, and those who don't breastfeed find other ways to bond.