I am a foster parent of an 11 year old boy I was in the middle of adopting. He got really violent and hurt my other two kids. He was arrested and taken away.I feel like my heart has been ripped out because I love him and will likely never get him back. Why? I dont know what else to ask unless your a praying chritan and can pray for him.
2006-07-26 17:35:03 · 24 answers · asked by Tina W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Many, many blessings be with you in your time of need. I can't begin to sympathize as to what you are feeling but my heart goes out to you.
2006-07-26 17:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sowhat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. I don't know your foster son obviously but I can picture him going through a very difficult time and having no one on his side since he is away. He has been abandoned by adult figures in his life and it has happened once again. There is no such thing as a bad child. He is good. He's just acted out in a way that is not good. Thank you for taking the time to help our children in need of love and guidance. I'm certain he will always remember your kindness and love. God bless you and your family!
2006-07-27 00:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and see if he can be sent for some professional therapy. It is possible that he has had some really bad experiences before you adopted him, which has left a scar and internal emotional wounds within.
Keep praying for him, because that's what he needs.
Also see that he is involved in good catechism and morals.... maybe more of that, to help heal his past.
Don't worry, all will turn out for the best.
2006-07-27 00:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by Carla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him more than your other 2 biological children? If it were me, it would've ripped my heart out that my 2 kids had been hurt! You put yourself out there, and did your best to help a needy child out with a family environment...it didn't work out. Your top priority should be your own kids first and foremost. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but God does everything for a reason. If you are Christian, then you know this already. Try focusing on your own children for a while. God bless.
2006-07-27 00:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll pray that God will do what's right for everyone in the situation. We're always given 1 of 3 answers.. Yes, No or Wait.. it's the "no" and "wait" that we have trouble with, but be patient and try to remember that God is in control....
Let go and let God!
I hope things work out
God Bless you,
Amber
2006-07-27 00:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're really hurt, but you have to think of your children's safety. It's for the best. Hopefully a childless family will be able to adopt him and help with his anger issues. In the mean time, let him know that you still love him despite his actions. And most importantly, make sure that your children are getting whatever help they need to heal from the emotional damage that was done.
Much Love!!
2006-07-27 00:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost all people have a big capacity to love, and be loved; some fight it, for unknown reasons, and end by breaking everyone's hearts.
It's human nature to make mistakes: and sometimes the price is very high and takes a real ability to face; especially when it is someone elses' failures.
Just know that you only ever had love in your heart: and that for whatever reason; he had to throw that away. keep your spirits up: this is vital for whatever is now to come your way. good luck
2006-07-27 00:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll pray for you, and your entire family as well as the foster child. I adopted a foster daugher and while she has issues, I have been very lucky. Sorry about your loss.
2006-07-27 00:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. One thing for sure you seem like a very kind person and you have other children that need to have someone like you to look after them, it's nice they have you. I will pray for you and your family, God will bless you because that's what he does. Take care.
2006-07-27 00:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by Pooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had to do what was best for you and your family. He needs help, and maybe now he'll get it. And just because he is gone now doesnt mean you will never see him again he knows you love him, so I'm sure he will come back. I will pray for you and your family.
2006-07-27 00:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please know that this may have happened because he needed help that you may not have been able to provide. Although I know this does not help, be thankful for the time that you had with him and I will pray that God will provide for both of you and that if possible, he be returned to you. God Bless.
2006-07-27 00:40:15 · answer #11 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋