my wife is pregnant ! What should i do ?

Question

my wife took those at home fertility test and is was positive...
i would like to have the baby but fear that i wont be able to the my wife and baby a good life...
what's your opinion ?

Answer 1

Make a party! A child is the most precious gift.
Go ahead, you can do it!

Answer 2

Just be there for your wife and baby and do the best you can. Life can be a struggle even at the best of times. Try to reassure yourself that there might be some lean times, but having a loving family can help you even through the worst times.

See if you can calmly share your concerns with your wife. Not like the sky is falling, but like honey, I've had some things on my mind. If you don't do this, she will be able to tell something is wrong and she'll worry more if you don't share your concerns. People have a tendency to imagine the worst.

By the way, you might want to put off having a second child until your financial situation is more secure.

Answer 3

You wanna have a baby and your wife as well so don't worry about things like how good I will be or won't be able to provide good life to your wife and a baby.No one was born as a parent and everyone is a beginner with a first baby on the way.You will be a very good father cause you think about things which some men just don't do.Good luck and you will see that everything will go well.

Answer 4

No young, new father, usually can. That is why the youngest is usually the one who had all the best stuff, because by then, you have established yourself financially, and gained experience.

Don't worry about it, just provide a safe and healthy home. Remember, your role as a father is just as important as your role as a bread winner. Both of you should consider a parenting class. Associate with couples with multiple children and learn from them. If you are under 30, and especially under 24, you are still feeling the urges and desires of your own childhood. This is normal, you are not a full adult until age 30, so you will have to try hard to fight them. You life now centers around your family, not your bar buddies. You wife reaches, or reached full maturity at age 24, so she is seeing the world complete different from you, especially now that she has a baby.

Consider joining the Fatherhood Initiative at the link below. They can provide you with useful information.

Answer 5

it's normal to have doubts. that's what proves that you will be an excellent father and husband! remember, although your wife looks all excited... she has the same little doubts about herself... remember to tell her what a great mom you think she will be, and why. let this pregnancy bring you closer together! your relationship will be a little strained after the birth of the child (due to so many new roles and new jobs... the responsibility) BUT, within a few weeks you will both have everything under control. try not to put to much pressure on your wife (mostly for sex) when she's a brand new mom.... she'll be trying to adjust to be everything to everyone and if you pressure her she will feel she's letting you down and not being a good wife. JUST BE PATIENT... i'm sure you will all have a great life together! CONGRATS!

Answer 6

The fact that you are even worried about giving them a good life is a good sign. You'll do great. The day the baby is born will be the best day of your life so far. No worries.

If you think you need some prep help, buy a couple books on parenting directed at dads to be. It'll help you put everything in perspective.

Good luck and congrads!

Answer 7

Don't run away. Work on being the best dad you can be before the baby gets here. Stop any cussing, so you won't teach bad manners,and maybe if you can go to one of those life seminars. Also, slow down on alchohol (if you drink) and get any dangerous things out of the house. I'm only 13 but I now what I'm talking about. Trust me. If you really care for your wife you will become a better person for her. I hope I helped. -Emily

Answer 8

Your going to be a dad, that's GREAT!!! The best thing you can do to give your wife and child a good life is to be there for them and give them love and support. Money is important. I won't lie and say it's not, but there's more to providing a good life than just money. That being said, focus right now on saving what you can, and on either building your career, or starting one if your current job has a limited future. Good luck and congrats.

Answer 9

My opinion is --that you are having the exact same reaction to this as probably 80% of the guys that go through this every day of the week
You're gonna do just fine---this has been going on for a long long time dude---far less capable dudes have gone through this before you and there'll be alot more of them after you---you can do this---one day at a time and with the help of the friends and family you have in your llife---it will all be alright---and ------CONGRATULATIONS

Answer 10

As long as you hang in there and don't fall apart or fall out, you'll be doing a lot. Things kind of work out somehow or we wouldn't be 6 billions and growing.

Just keep in mind that a "good life" does not require a lot of material (financial) resources as long as some basic needs are attained. Just being there and trying will mean more.

Answer 11

I think your feelings are normal. My husband freaked when I told him about our first child 9 years ago. We just had our third child. It gets easier. Trust me, having a scared dad and husband is better than not having one at all. As for the idiot that said abort and run away. Ignore it. Some people should not be allowed to breed.