He has a wonderful 6 yr old little girl that is not at all involved with her mother and I have a 5 yr old little girl that is very involved with her daddy. My boyfriend and I have been dating a short time and feel like marriage may be on the horizon. We just want to know what people think is enough time to be dating someone as a single parent before taking that next step to joining families. Oh yeah, just so you know before answering, our daughters are both of our number one priorities and they love each other very much.
2006-07-26 17:03:15 · 10 answers · asked by emismommy01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are no rules. Just make sure you know each other under distress to see how you all deal with it.
Make sure you have the same expectations in life.
Dissuss how you would deal any and every situation.
Be prepared.
Love life....
And best wishes for a wonderful life together
2006-07-26 17:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
until you relaize when you get married you and not your children are you number one prority
heres why
when parent devote all there time and effort to their children ( usaully out of guilt deep seated ) and less to there spouses, after a while the spouses wonder why they even got involved at all, most women will treat the husband with a distance 2nd to the child. after a while the man begans to wonder whats in it for him as he pull hard for the family yets enjoys few rewards, pretty soon divorce seesm like a pretty good option to escape the growing unhappiness inside...
women then wonder why the man may not desire them as much or go astray.. yet the solution is right in front of them all along. being single parents further adds challage of family intregration, discipline ( and that alone is a huge issue for many as often it's an issue of who discplines what child and to what degree ), often when 2 single parents marry you'll have just that, 2 single parents who are married, and there will be no melding of there lives together, but rather 2 independant people living together on semi seperate schedule ( again with the same results, divorce.. )
2006-07-26 17:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just because you are both single Parents. Live together for a year and if that works out Get Married. Because you don't really know a person until you have lived with them for a year. By that time you will know each others good, and bad, Habits. You also will know most of each others Likes and Dislikes. Then you can weigh the good and bad and then decide.
2006-07-26 17:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by tm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least 6 months before engagement and a year to be sure you like each when the honeymoon phase is over....and slowly ease the children into interacting as a new family unit, especially so that you daughter doesn't think her dad is being replaced....you might want to tell your ex if you get married, so that you 2 can be on the same page to support the new family for your daughter....
2006-07-26 17:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by Erving Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say anything under six months and you have not had time to look deep enough to say you want to spend the rest of your life with each other.
Although if you are comfortable with his daughter and he is comfortable with allowing you to take a leading role with his daughter(such as discipline) with out getting upset and his daughter is COMFORTABLE with you same going with your child and him then I think you have your answer.
2006-07-26 18:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about how you both feel about it and your kids....although I would say you really don't know somebody till you have known them for a few years...have you heard of the pretend stage when they say all the right things and do all the right things but they can't keep it up forever.
2006-07-26 17:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds really good I wold not give it more than a year so the girls will grow up togeather it is alot easier if they are younger
2006-07-26 17:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it at least a year. See how it goes through holidays and family gatherings.
2006-07-26 17:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by clover31776 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you two have a wonderful thing going!!! Go for it and get married!!!! Lots of Luck to you two, & to your daughters!!!
2006-07-26 17:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by brat71825 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds good, I would give it at least a year before getting married.
2006-07-26 17:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋