We are divorced and he lives out of state. He does not get to visit her often. But she was invited to vacation with her best friend at the same time frame. i tried to work it out so that she can do both.... 5 days with dad then vacation with friend right after. He is unwilling to compromise and now she doesnt even want to go see him. I'm not trying to keep her from him, but she REALLY wants to go on the vacation with the friend instead. I am encouraging her to spend time with her father, but is there some legal loophole to help me out here???. He is insisting that she come and stay the entire week.
2006-07-26 16:51:52 · 20 answers · asked by Jessi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you can provide a legitimate reason why your daughter should not visit with her father then no (e.g. danger purposes, etc.). also, if u can convince him to allow her the vacation and he agrees, then she does not have to go then specifically, and can visit with him some other time. if you cannot convince him to allow her the friend vacation and you have no substantial evidence to prove that it is in her best interest to not visit her father, she is a minor and her testimony wont hold in court, so hence she has to go visit dad.
2006-07-26 16:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by supergenius 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know, after my initial reaction ("this guy is a jerk"), I get the feeling we're not getting the entire picture. Did this vacation invite come up after the planned visit? Maybe he has rearranged his schedule around this week and now this vacation idea has been thrown in.
Now, my question to you is, (and this is assuming I'm right), did you stand up for the father's right to see his daughter by telling her she couldn't do it, or did you encourage her in how much fun it would be and to ask the dad? Or worse yet, do as you said, and tried to make arrangements BEFORE even contacting him? If that's the case, no wonder you 2 are divorced. He may be feeling victimized here.
You said yourself that he doesn't get to visit her often; I would think you would make darn sure that those few times don't get interrupted. Don't use his time with his daughter as a means to make his life difficult. I think you might owe both him and her an apology for letting this situation get to this point.
2006-07-26 23:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im dealing with the same kind of situation with my ex-husband and our 5 yr old daughter. legally, she has to go visit with him the entire summer and i only get to see her every other weekend but that arrangement was ordered by the judge during our divorce so if u dont have a court order that forces her to go spend a certain length of time with her father and its just him wanting her to come for the entire time, i dont think she has to go.
2006-07-26 23:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Luscious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't have a choice at this point. If he is entitled to visitation rights, he should be able to see her. Just like she can't sign a contract, make medical decisions for herself, or decide whether or not she wants to go to school. You are responsible for her. By giving her the option, the law sees it as you not permitting the father to see the child.
2006-07-26 23:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what states. I live in Florida, legally you have to let her, but there isn't a law saying she has to go. If he don't chill he is gonna lose her. my 12 year old didn't even see heer dad at all this summer, simply because she didin't want to. When she goes, she's stuck with his girlfriend (of 5 yrs) while he goes off with her brother (my & his also). So she's making him pay by not seeing him. I don't have to make her go.
In my state : NO
2006-07-26 23:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by creeklops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has legal rights to see her and a judge says he gets her at that time then there is not a whole lot you can do if he is unwilling to compromise
2006-07-26 23:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would depend on what's written in the custody order from the divorce....see a lawyer....get clarification, she's only 10 so I'm afraid in most states she doesn't get much of a say in things at this point unfortunately.
2006-07-26 23:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 take it back 2 court but both of u parents need 2 remember she is just a kid going through fazes. next week she will want something else lol is there not some nice way u can talk 2 him n maybe get him 2 understand this.
2006-07-26 23:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a parent, he is a parent and he has a right to see his daughter. The court set up the visiting arrangements and it is up to you to keep it. Your daughter is acting like a spoiled brat and needs to spend time with her father and get over it.
You need to quit enabling her and be a parent and uphold your agreement.
2006-07-26 23:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think thats right, I wouldnt force her but I do think there could be a leagal thing about it. I lady i work with didnt want her son going with his dad for the summer b/c he had summer school etc. and the cops came and made him go with him. It showed in the divorce papers and she couldnt do anything the cops said. so i would say if he wanted to push it he would win leagally..i still wouldnt force her to go if she didnt want to.
2006-07-26 23:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by starlight1blonde87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋