2006-07-26 16:49:54 · 9 answers · asked by cbarnet216 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey I can say this much, I have been there and done that 2x with my husband...A patriot has a good point. I have stuck it out 2x. I am not saying its not hard, it is! But if you really love this one, hold on. make it work...But, if it was a cheating thing for love, let him go and move on but if it was over a sexual thing, hold on, you may thank yourself later for it. I did the 1rst time...Good Luck and god bless...I know this is a very hard time for you emotionally .
2006-07-26 17:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by scorpiochick668 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cheated at my wife about 5 years ago. It was hard at first, but she stood by me and we worked it out. I haven’t cheated since. Our relationship is stronger than ever and even she admitted that our sex life was at its peak when I was with them both.
Women have to get realistic about the cheating thing. Most men will think about it and many will do it. If you leave your man for cheating and hook up with another one, chances are that he cheated on someone else and/or will cheat on you. most often, cheating is a sex thing and relationships are a love thing. If he cheats on you for sex, stand by him and work it through. You will both be better for it. If he cheats on you for love, that’s a different story. In that case, talk about it and evaluate the status of your relationship. Stick with it if it’s strong and let it go if his love for another has deteriorated it.
I had to add this due to other answers to this question:
1) ‘Once a cheater always a cheater’ is a lie. Humans are learning creatures. After you dump him for cheating, he will probably become some other woman’s faithful companion and give her the love you would have received if you had stayed by him.
2) giving someone a second chance takes a greater strength than simply tossing the relationship away. Cutting and running in other contexts is considered weak or cowardly; why is it strong and noble in this case. If my wife had left me, neither of us would ever be whole again.
2006-07-26 17:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick a cheating person to the curve and never give them a second chance because once a cheater..........always a cheater. Reason of this is because when you give them a second chance they see your weak side and assume that you will keep giving them chance after chance, thats why they nevver stop the cheating. So for all you cheaters out there who think you are slick and smart you are really stupid and weak yourself because the ones who give you second chances are the ones who dont really have any self asteem and are weak. Try doing it to someone who isnt weak and will kick you to the curve. Cheaters dont deserve any relationship at all. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship...........without it there is no relationship, think about it.
2006-07-26 17:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by Amira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by not calling it cheating. It's not the sex so much, it's the mind thing that happens. This stuff happens to everybody, it's how you handle it that determines the future. In my case, love won out. It doesn't always work out but I think it's worth making an effort to save the relationship.
2006-07-26 16:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been cheated on. apparently, my ex-boyfriend thought that i was a mindless rug. and that all that blonde bull...CRAP... is true. ****** tried to get me back after i had been dumped by another guy. thsi is how it went.
1. first boyfriend EVER (im kinda a freak)
2. uses me as a trophy, pushed me around, ignored me for a WEEK and gave me a bullcrap excuse, saw him hug another girl right in front of me and still had the gall to say he loved me.
3. dumped him
4. found another guy (accidentally). he was a friend and he and his girlfriend had just broken up
5. second guy dumped me
6. not three days later, the first guy thought it a wise descision to try and get me to come back to him. didnt.
been three months now
so, yeah, I survived being cheated on. dont know if the first idiot has gotten over it yet.
2006-07-26 17:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not yet but i am working on it. my wife cheated on me 3 times. twice with the same man and one other time. they were all close togatehr. (with in a month on all three occassions) i believe this is going to make us stronger. counseling does help.
2006-07-27 03:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by welder0964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure he survived cheating and then turned gay
2006-07-26 16:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by LaToya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is perfect & everyone does mistakes during their lifetimes.be it white lies,cheatings, stealings,bi-affairs,etc.
Forgiving & remorseful abt yr mistakes, times will heal eventually.
2006-07-26 16:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest you have to be really willing to forgive the main thing is to "forget" and move on, if not you have to forget it because a realtionship is built on trust and you will always be wondering....
2006-07-26 16:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by robincherry6515 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋