Its so unfair, Im 13 years old and my mom doesnt let me hang out with guys. And i have alot of guys that are friends, But she thinks I'll have sex with them.
What do you think?
What should I do?
Is it fair or unfair?
2006-07-26 16:35:15 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im sorry to say that and im 14 myself but that is fair because my friend was just like you and she hung out with these boys and they rape her got her high and raped her.
2006-07-26 19:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not being unfair. I know it may look that way to you now, but trust me when I tell you... your mom does know best! She's giving you advice because she has been your age and knows what could happen. Even if you don't intend on having sex, you could be caught in a bad situation where guys can turn on you and hurt you. Especially when there's drinking involved (and I've been where you are... so I know what goes on), you may not be able to control yourself, or someone will take advantage of you. Guys at this age have one thing on their minds... SEX! They are raging with hormones, and will do whatever it takes to score with a girl. Don't believe them all when they tell you they just want to be friends and hang out. When adults give you advice, it's because they understand what may happen. I know it seems very unfair for you not to be able to make your own decisions... believe me when I tell you, you don't have enough life experience to understand the down sides. When you grow up and become a woman, you will look back at these years (your teenage years) and realize just how much you couldn't have comprehended by yourself.
Do you have an older brother? If you do, ask him what goes through the minds of teenage boys. You may want to ask a male family member or friend that is older about the behaviors of teenage boys. I guarantee you that they will say what I'm saying.
I hope you respect yourself enough to listen to your mother. She's absolutely right in her decision... and one day, you will understand it very clearly.
2006-07-26 23:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 13 year old girls do not see the whole picture. Your mom is right. I would not let my 13 yr old girl hang out w/ guys. It isn't she doesn't trust you, but she is probably afraid that you will get yourself into a bad situation. Like if a guy tries to have sex with you and you don't really want to, young girls do not make very good decisions. You should not be in a situation where you may have to make a decision like that, that you are not ready for. Young boys are unpredictable. And the ones you hang out with may be fine, but what about all of their friends?? Listen to your mom on this one. Someday you'll be glad you did.
2006-07-26 23:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfair, but not as unfair as the girls who end up getting pergnant because their parents never placed any rules. don't think i'm being insensitive, I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until i"m 18 (I'm 14) and i'm going into homeschool next year. But, i was on a mission trip to NYC this summer, and we met a girl there, who was 12, and looked like she had been working the streets for a couple of years, and another 12 year old, pregnant. Kind of an eyeopener, isn't it?
2006-07-27 02:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Cayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are talking about hanging out, not dating;
1. I think thats lame
2. you should talk to her and let her meet the guys b4 u hang out so she feels more comfortable. she really needs to have more trust in you. explain to her that you arent that stupid and you would never do something like that
3. it is but it isnt. I mean, she is your mother so she has the right to restrict you from these boys if she feels that you should not be around them, but she should trust you more and let you have a little more freedom.
Im 13 too but my mom would never do something like that. but then again, she doesnt even know that im friends with lots of guys. your mom should be lucky she is involved that part of your life.
2006-07-27 04:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity when I was 13 & I'll never stop regretting it! I wonder if you mom had a similiar experience & is afraid you'll do the same. Maybe you should ask her if that is the reason. It might also help to tell her that you want to be responsible & that you have no intention of having sex anytime soon (I hope that's true). Good luck. :)
2006-07-26 23:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy Kai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent I have to agree with your mother...however I also understand that you need to hang out with your friends as well...I think you should propose the guys hanging out with you at your house, so she can supervise and get to know the boys, then she might be able to trust someone with her baby...Just remember that parents usually have a good reason for the things we do, but we cannot always share the reasons for the things we enforce upon you...
Good luck.
2006-07-26 23:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by walter4p46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16 and my parents are the same way and most of my friends are guys.IT SUCKS!!!So it's definatly not fair especially when I tell them and I mean it when I say I don't want or am ready for sex.Sex is not what all teens want,I'm still a virgin.They also don't let me date,that stinks too.Unfortunatly,there is probably nothing you can do,maybe she can meet them and get to know them better and things might loosen up a bit.I hope things work out for you and good luck.
2006-07-26 23:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is unfair but the right thing, my mom said to me that I could not hang with my best girl-I was 13, and so I ran away. My mom was right cuz that girl died at 15 yrs old. they are right and it sucks but they love us and that is why they are right and it is unfair
2006-07-26 23:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'd have sex with them if your mother let you run wild. YOUR MOM is looking out for your best interest. she's NOT being unfair, you're ONLY 13! i don't let my kids "hang out" with their friends without direct supervision from another parent until they are 16.
2006-07-26 23:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your position about 4 years ago. My mom was extremely protective of me (she's eased up over the years). She didn't let me hang out with my guy friends at all if no other girls were going to be with us. So to put her at ease I invited them over to my house so my mom could meet them and get to know them. She felt a lot more comfortable with me going out with them after a couple of times.
Now, I think you should definitely sit down with your mom and talk to her about why she doesn't want you to hang out with them. Is it really about sex? because if it is it may be a trust issue. And if it is, talk to her about it and your views on the subject maybe it will put her at ease. Also, let her meet them people you want to hang out with.
Good Luck =)
2006-07-27 00:05:32 · answer #11 · answered by Sweet_Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋