if wife cheats?

Question

if wife cheated once how likely is it that she will cheat again? p.s. i did notthing to make her cheat in the first place.

Answer 1

First of all, the answer is to find out WHY she cheated. Get some counseling as couple if needed. But a person can either be making a habit/hobby of cheating or be so devestated by what they've done that they WILL NEVER do that again.

So, work on communication. Because really in a good relationship, a partner who is going to cheat (because they're in need of attention, say as an example), or has that feeling of loneliness (another example) that they should not have in their relationship, well, the other partner is the one who should be the one who's sensitive enough to know something is wrong, we need to try to get closer and spend more time together, and work on the reason for what's wrong. It's a compromise, a sacrifice for one partner to be a strength when the other partner's weakness can be hurting or disappointing to him or her.

You may not have done anything to "make" her cheat. NEVER blame yourself.

But as for the things to that led up to the cheating, both partner's have to sit down and find out what they could have done to be more sensitive to each other's needs, as the important thing is to find a SOLUTION to why and not focus so much on the problem itself, because if one doesn't then the history can repeat itself. That part is a two-way street.

Answer 2

Well I tend to believe once a cheat always a cheat, but it may depend on her circumstances too. For instance, was she intoxicated, that may have helped her wrong choice. And also how remorseful is she and would she be willing to get maybe some counseling to figure out why she did it. The first thing that will help your marriage is to solve the why then u can decide if thats fixable.

Answer 3

Well you are right...you did not do anything to make her cheat. That's a choice she made, no matter what lame excuse she gives. But, it is possible that if you guys sit down and talk about what the problem is you just might have a stronger marriage at the end of it all. On the yahoo home page today there was an article about infidelty. I thought it was great. Check it out you. TALK, TALK, TALK.

Answer 4

I would go and do about 6 sessions with a marriage counsellor TOGETHER.

After that you can decide if you can really forgive her and get past it or not. If she was cheating you had something to do with it....you have to accept responsibillity for that too. Just because you didn't cheat on her first yadda yadda doesn't mean that maybe you don't make her feel loved and appreciated or help out at home.....could be any number of things....counselling will get it all out on the table then you can both decide whether to work on it or forget it and move on.

Answer 5

Dr Phil says, "the best predictor or future behavior is past behavior." Also, "a person with nothing to hide, hides nothing." If she's cheating, there is something going on. Whether it is your fault or not. She's not happy about something. Try to talk to her to see if she can tell you what that problem is. In my opinion, if someone cheats, they no longer have any privacy. It's a free for all to keep a close eye on them. And if they are no longer cheating and want the relationship to work, they shouldn't have a problem with your snooping.

Answer 6

It is important to have a discussion on what they were trying to gain by having the affair to begin with. There has to be a reason for the cheating.... and if the reason is still there - it can certanly happen again.

Such as - she is home alone too many days bored ( needs to find a job or hobby). She does not like you since you gained weight....She does not find marriage satisfying... She did not date many men before....etc.

Answer 7

Firstly, you may think that you did nothing to `make her cheat' BUT - hey, it takes two to tango, right??! So ~ you sound like you really need to get in touch with HER your wife, and find out what's going on with her: and if there's a situation that needs to be faced; and decide what you want: do you want to handle whatever comes up? Or do you want to give up, and end on your marriage? I don't think anyone would get divorced if they could work out what went wrong: so good luck with your efforts.

Answer 8

u sure? maybe she just got bored with you, or got irritated on how yall argued over the littlest things.... but still back to the point. cheating...... if she cheated once, she gonna cheat again regardless of your love for her. and her love for you shouldnt really matter beings she loved you enough to hurt you and cheat on you. dont make the same mistake twice. dont be the one to blame or for people to point fingers and say he let her do it again. im not sure how strong the relationship is between yall so its hard to say. you have to talk to someone who is there a lot more and see things. its hard to ask a complete stranger, even if the same thing happened to them. its just not the same. to me if you put up with cheating, you let her walk ALL over you and you dont want that, believe me. hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 9

I have had some experience in this area and it depends on the woman... Some feel bad about what happened and will never do it again and then others well think that if you do not give them what they want that the will get it else where..... So the only one that will be able to answer this answer is you/her...

Answer 10

Once a cheat,always a cheat. If you forgave her and you really love her, give her another chance. If not and you dont have kids, kick her to the curb.