I hear about so many nightmare marriages and cheating husbands, I wonder if it is possible for a man to be honest and faithful if he had an affair. Or will he always be a cheat?
2006-07-26 16:09:52 · 11 answers · asked by Paulina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Paulina:
That depends on several things, and a woman can be just as unfaithful as a man. the biggest indicator is WHY a person had the affair in the first place (ie loneliness, lack of attention, selfishness). Sometimes a person, a man, in this instance, did not start an "affair" as a habit or side hobby. And so, they may want to change or want to have their partner's attention. But, oftentimes, the person who cheats has other issues besides the actual cheating, issues that are much bigger than the lack of trust and lack of communication. And that is the reason for the breakup of the marriage so then of course, a person who cannot face those deeper, underlying issues and get some therapy for them first, will still cheat, or will always have an inner struggle with how to deal with their issues successfully (or unsuccessfully).
2006-07-26 16:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how it was handled first time. Did the couple seek help with reconciliation through a counselor?. By no means was it okay for the husband to cheat but there probably were some unaddressed issues that he used to rationalize cheating. If the couple has worked through these and recommited to each other, then I think they should have faith in eachother. If they have some unresloved issues and didn't deal with the previous affair fully, then I think it would be highly likely that he would stray again.
Best wishes!
2006-07-26 23:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course each situation is unique. If I were in a 2nd marriage though and my spouse cheated on his first wife, it'd always be in the back of my mind. Remember, no matter how in love the two of you are, I'm thinking he was convinced he loved his first wife like that too. Things change, feelings fade. I guess I don't wanna say "Once a cheater, always a cheater", but if he did it once, why wouldn't he do it again?
2006-07-26 23:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by mayorofsteveville2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is an exception to every rule. I have yet to meet a cheating husband who did it only once. The first time is the hardest. After that it gets easier. You need to be care full where you place your trust. He may not honor or deserve it.
2006-07-26 23:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if there is a true love there the hard part is forgiving him for it i beleave that a man can stop
2006-07-26 23:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by smrhere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooner or later they all grow up. But believe me it is usually LATER
2006-07-27 00:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he done it once he will do this again . once a cheater always a cheater. my opion?
2006-07-26 23:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they will always be cheaters.
2006-07-26 23:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by mickeymaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 23:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by brat71825 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will always be a cheater
2006-07-26 23:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋