THERE IS NO COUNTER-TRANSFERANCE.
I've brought it up to my therapist, who first introduced me to the word and he referred to Freud. So I understand where it's coming from, but I just can't seem to get over it. I needed to get to know him in order to be able to trust him. When I felt the transferance was getting to strong, I made it a point to stop asking him friendly questions and just focus on my problems. This has helped some, yet by not seeing his "human" side (his flaws) it re-inforces this idea in my head of this "perfect" man. So....other than trying to find a new therapist, do you have any sugestions? Or is this just a natural feeling that I'm gonna have to learn to live with?
2006-07-26 16:03:56 · 5 answers · asked by fleetfarmgirl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all Freud is full of it. Second you have to tell your self that your therapist is not the perfect man. If He is a good therapist then stay with him. He will not allow you to act on your feelings and if he feels the situation is out of control will end the relationship (patient - Dr) He has been trained to handle these situations and knows the ethically ramifications of transference, so trust him to do what is right. Just maintain the honesty you already have with him and he will help you work through your feelings and problems.
In order to stop feeling the way you do you have to force your self to think about his imperfections. Try listing the reasons why he is not the perfect man for you. (starting with the fact he is your therapist and if he would engage in a relationship with you how could you trust him not to engage in a relationship with his other patients.) If he is married that is a good thing to think about.
I used to think my Dr. and his wife had the perfect life until I got to know them both and realize even the most perfect people are flawed.
Good luck I hope all your problems get worked out therapy can be a great thing.
2006-07-26 16:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by AlwaysRight 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is counter transferrence; When your therapist starts asking too many questions in reverse there is reason for concern. Just who is going argue this question?
2006-07-26 16:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by BONNIE B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
transferance and counter-transferance are givens in a counselling setting.
There is always some level of transferace and counter-transferance as it is human to have that element in ay kind of relationship.
The best thing you can do with a counsellor is to see them as very human flaws and all and realise they are not perfect, nor are they meant to be, they are simply normal human beings that have been trained to listen.
2006-07-26 16:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a natural occurence, since he is helping you with your problems, he is sub-conciously looked upon as your "hero" or saviour". It is hard to tell if he is just being friendly or seducing you.
You have to keep reminding yourself that he is just helping you. If you find it difficult to control your feelings, urges towards him or vice versa, it is best to ask him to refer you to a female therapist.
2006-07-26 16:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by lilneo0082 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't buy it at Fleet Farm, you don't need it.
Dump him and hang out in the Farm department for a while. Someone smarter and better looking will come along to answer your questions.
Otherwise, get some pigs and talk to them instead. They love that kind of stuff. Unfortunately, I couldn't find any Jungian pigs, so I had to settle for chickens.
2006-07-26 16:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋