My old best friend and I had a fight about 8 months ago and I have not spoken to her since, it was a relitively minor fight but the longer time went without speaking to her the more I have built to not like her, also I have not really missed her at all been having heaps of fun and doing things I normally wouldn't without her (I think I may have held back alot when we hung out).. Problem is one of my other really good friends has remained semi close to her still and I can see the frustration it must be causing her to juggle herself between us both.. also this so called ex best friend textd me the other night wanting make-up, I don't really want to as I seem to be having more fun without her, but should I make up to make things eaisier in the group and for my other friends?? Am I just being selfish, Or should I stick to my guns as I think the friendship has passed its use by date and expired, eventhough it's difficult for a few people!!
2006-07-26 16:01:17 · 5 answers · asked by channille 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you don't miss her and you really are better without her, not it is the right time to be selfish. you don't have to make things easier for anyone besides you.
2006-07-26 16:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tathi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't hate your ex-best friend anymore and if you don't want to see those stuck between you and your ex-best friend suffer, my opinion is to accept your ex-best friend anew.
Will it cause you less fun accepting your ex-beset friend? Maybe, maybe not. You may just be thrilled to experience things without your ex-best friend. What thrills you may just be the refreshing experience. And this 'refreshness' may die out as soon as you get used to it. Then you will find having a close company refreshing again.
At the end of the day, you must ask yourself what 'friendship' means to you. Is it just for fun? Or is it also for 'sharing', 'support' and even 'sacrifice'?
2006-07-26 16:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Dinner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is not like a material that has an expiration date. There is an expressing for friendship and that is: The more it gets old the better tastes, like an old wine.
2006-07-26 16:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by ali F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be polite to her but not make any great effort to do things with her. Keep yourself distanced from her while remaining polite and she'll get the point but you don't have to be the bad guy.
2006-07-26 16:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda went through the same thing.
it was like i could be more of myself without my best friend watching my every move, because it made me feel pressured to be how i am with her...and i couldn't make change for anyone else, or she might notice.
but we're still good friends. i just have to take a break from her every once in a while. you don't have to declare it to the world..."I'M TAKING A BREAK FROM YOU"...but just don't hang out for around a week...and then maybe get together. it's not a huge concept...as long as she has other friends. but you never know..she might feel the same way.
good luck♥
2006-07-26 16:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋