I need sincere & honest answer not 1 that screw up everything.
Im married for almost a year after 3 years of courtship. Before that I have a boyfriend of 4 years. I could said he's the best but it's his "always out & in of jail" and "two-timing me" made me think enuf is enuf.... Eversince he's release this year, we have not met but once awhile friends just tell me how he's doing etc.... I know 1 thing for sure that I won't go back to him not only because of "his good for nthg" in life but also because I want to be a gud wife w "clean record".
Recently a friend told me, he met my ex with his new gf. After that, I kinda moody, dreaming away and his memories keep haunting me. My finger feel like dialling his no. but I refrain myself. Im having hard time to sleep & my mood just swing. At the same time, I just find my hubby irritating even when he touch me. What the hell is happening to me?
2006-07-26 15:25:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I shared more beautiful memories with my ex of 4 years. He seems to know my like & dislikes. Yesterday, I just feel like banging my head as if Im denying that I still remember him.
2006-07-26 15:32:27 · update #1
You really should stop and think about the reality of who this loser is. Why you shouldn't be with him. Maybe you can go where he hangs out and take a 2nd look at him. I know when I ran into my ex, I was shocked at how pathetic he was. I don't even know why I was ever interested in him in the first place. Just seeing him was enough to convince me that I had made the right choice to be with a real man, who is decent and loving. Don't screw up your REAL relationship, with the fantasy of loser. It could be that YOU don't feel worthy of your husband and that's why you are inadvertently sabotaging your marriage. Take control of yourself and make the right decisions for you and your life. Don't punish your good husband, b/c of this jerk. :) Good luck!
2006-07-26 15:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by :) K-smiles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People say they 'find' love, as if it were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find then is a certain love.
Love, like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes, under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots, keeping itself alive.
Lost love is still love. It takes a different form, that's all. You can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it.
2006-07-26 15:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's only natural to be jealous, but remember, you are far better off now. If your husband irritates you it is because you think that you want this other man back. The irritation will go away when you realize that you are with the right guy after all.
2006-07-26 15:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is happening to you is a form of depression and anxiety as a direct result of choosing an abusive relationship. You need to talk to a therapist about the sick logic of being attracted to a person that is only bad for you. you also need to remember what marriage is and make the commitment.
2006-07-26 15:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by alracaratq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you have break up with your ex bf, you should forget about him and look towards your future. Ask yourself, does he deserved your love if he can two timing you? Since you are already married to someone else, put your heart and soul to your husband.
As you have selected your husband yourself, I think you should know that he is the one who really love and care for you. Don't wrecked your own marriage bcoz of your ex bf.
2006-07-26 23:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart is overriding your head.
You really need to dig deep and figure out which one you really want.
It is not fair to your husband if you are so indecisive.
Sometimes, it is best to do the responsible things.
However, if it is just going to make you miserable and feel lacking, go with it :-)
I have lived my life going by my own choices, not the norm.
I am happier with it!
Do what YOU want, I mean really want, to do.
Not what people expect you to do :-)
Good luck sweetie :-)
Just don't forget, he is a trouble maker...
2006-07-26 15:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just confused and u need to pray honey and let all that go u are married now and u took vowes to love your husband for life and u should do just that.forget your past and stay with your husband and love only your husband cause the other male he is not good and u dont want your life to be bad..u have safty where u are now dont loose that:)
2006-07-26 15:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by tina m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek the Lord
2006-07-26 16:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothings wrong with you u r just getting over the relationship if i were you i probably would have down the same thing try and forget about him and talk to a friend they can always help you sort ur problems out.. good luck
2006-07-26 15:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by iLoVe HoRsEs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its human to feel a little jealous, you had a close bond, but i am glad to hear you are striving to get over it and are determined to be a good loving wife. good girl!! go with your gut instincts here, you are on track!! maybe you could see a counselor about these feelings, cause if your hubby hasn't done anything wrong and you love him you've got to get that closeness back in your lives. good luck!! keep the faith...fulness!!!!
2006-07-26 15:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by beaniefufer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋