my wife is SCARED to give birth vaginally,how can I stop her from?

Question

my wife is SCARED to give birth vaginally,how can I stop her from?
How can i Prevent her from having a Casarean section?
She is very stong heathy 28yr old woman,with no family history of complication's
I told her that a C-Section is more scary.She told me that men don't know anything...
HELP,.......maybe if she reads other peolpe's suggestion she might change her mind
Is it true that you can complicate a future pregnacy by having a C-section???

Answer 1

givin birth by vagina is more valuable bcuz its a good painm although it hurts. look how many kids r walkin around on this earth. if vaginal birth would be anberable pain it would mean nothin. tell her to talk to her mom, or any woman who had a child.

Answer 2

Future *pregnancys* are not at risk when you've had a C-section - but it usually mena every future birth needs to be a C-section.

Your wife can't *elect* to have a C-section. No doctor will do it just because she prefers it.

There are drugs that can be given during labor, and also the epidural - which will mean she won't feel anything from the waist down, making for a pretty damn painless birth.

Let her know that a vaginal birth is actually healthier for the baby. And MUCH easier to bounce back from as the mom. I had a C-section, and it was 3 weeks before I felt human again. A friend was up and around mere days after giving birth normally.

She should focus on her child. It may be a little scary. It often is when you're doing something you've never done before. Childbrith classes will help the "unknown" factor.

Whatever happens, it's only for a day - and then she'll have a little miracle in her arms. THAT'S what she should think about - not that she may be uncomforatable for 24 hours....

Answer 3

Today a C section is safer for the child, and it is far more painful in the long run for the mother. Vaginal birth pain is over
as soon as the baby is born. C sections hurt for weeks after the birth of the baby. I had 5 vaginal births. Yes it hurts for a few hours, but then it's over. I would sit down with the obstetrician and discus your wifes' fears. He is the one who should have the experience that she will listen too. If she wants to go into surgery
then let her do it. I think the next time she will choose vaginal delivery. She is correct on one thing though, MEN have no idea about giving birth to a baby, and they should be quiet.

Answer 4

I have had 4 kids, my first was emergency c-section and then I had a vbac, and then 2 more c-section. Of course vaginal is the easiest way to have a child. It is always scarey to go into labor and have a baby. but when it happens it all happens so fast. The down falls of a c-section are of course longer healing time, chance of rupture during future pregnancies, and a scar that will last a life time, and a stupid belly flappy thing you will not be able to get rid of no matter how hard you try.. they do cut right through your muscle..
I know that after I had c-sections, it was way hard to breast feed, to get up and hold the baby, to sit, to laugh, to cough. You dont get to hold your baby for at least 2 hours after the surgery.. plus you cant leave the hospital until you pass gas.. eww..
my vbac (vaginal birth after c-section) was a lot easier.. I had a few stitches down below but healing time was much faster.. I didnt have to stay in hte hospital for 3 days.. i was out the next day. I was walking, breast feeding was easier, i lost the weight faster. it is definatley easier to have it vaginal. Remeber there are always pain medications, and epidurals that make it a lot more bearable.. I hope all goes well and remember a doctor really wont chose to do a c-section unless they is medical means for it!!

Answer 5

Is there any medical reason she should not have a vaginal birth?

If there isn't, I would *strongly* suggest she have the child vaginally.

From a practical standpoint, it's cheaper than a C-section. (This is why many doctors push for Caesarians even for healthy mothers.) It's also less invasive; the surgery takes some time to heal from, leaves scarring, and does in fact complicate future pregnancies.

To eliminate her fears, as well as her pain, there's the most beautiful word in the english language: epidural. One shot of that, and she will be swimming.

Answer 6

There seems to be a trend in the working women that a scheduled "C" is the way to give birth. It is Scheduled at a time doctors and patient agree and at a time when the fetus is viable. It is CONVENIENT. It is not the way to go if its being done for that purpose. Your wife needs to hear from professionals that there are risks. Some doctors "push" "C " s because the procedure is more costly and therefore more of a financial boon for them.

She needs to hear from other women about recovery time and complications in scaring, nerve damage, lax muscles in the abdominal area. I could go on but it would be redundant. Suffice it to say that she needs to think about why she wants this.

You need to back off about your views on this. She is right in one thing...You don't know much about birth or the pain involved. Is this her first child? Where are her supporters; sisters, cousins and aunts
and most of all her MOTHER? And yes: it is possible that further pregnancies will require a "C" because of scarring.

Answer 7

The fact of the matter IS, C-sections are POPULAR these days and touted as the 'best' way to give birth, especially by the surgeons that make a whole LOAD of money doing the operations.

In fact, C sections should ONLY be performed where REQUIRED, not as an option.

Your wife has been psyched out by gossip and hearsay. Tell her that if she is absolutely healthy and the baby is normal, there is nothing at all to fear.

Answer 8

Well I'm about to have a baby. So tell your wife that if she has a c-section she can't leave the hospital till she has a bowel movement. Which feels worst than having the vaginal birth! I'll take my chances with vaginal birth. She has plenty of time to prepare herself and go to different classes. Still i know no amount of real preparation can MAKE you ready but your muscles will be stronger, your breathing will be better, and you can make it easier on yourself. Oh and I hope she doesn't want a c-section scar!!

Answer 9

LAMAZE...I swear by it. I still use it (babies are 15 & 12) when I'm in a stressful situation (in a plane about to land in Chicago, driving through Dallas, etc.).... focus and breathe. the scariest thing about giving birth for me was the possibility of having to have a C-section. the spinal anesthesia is unpredictable at worst. the pain of labor is eased w/lamaze, and an excellent coach (which I had) made both births a beautiful experience.
You cannot prevent her from having a C-section, but you can support her emotionally.
Congrats and enjoy your new baby.

Answer 10

She needs to take the Lamaze class. Then she will learn more and hopefully fear less.

Some women are able to have vaginal birth after a C section but most need another C section.

Answer 11

C-sections are not as dangerous as they used to be, although with any surgery there's risks. There's risks with vaginal childbirth as well. C-sections don't cause complications for further pregnancies.

She'll have some recovery time, so would probably need some help with the baby for the first couple of weeks.

I think you should honor her wishes. It's really her decision.