my girlfriend broke up with meafter 2 years. ive considered suicide. what should i do? i likeher a lot stil?

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my girlfriend broke up w/ me after 2 years. im 13. ive considered suicide, i cut my arms with a knife now....i dont know what to do...she has a new boyfriend, but says she'll still date me....i dont know when though. and i dont know how much more I can take before i totally collapse.......i need help.......

Answer 1

Dude, I've been where you are--suicidal because of a girl. Suicide is never the answer. I've been there. Check out the links below for crisis-hotline numbers you can use--please do--if you need them. There's also a little bit about my own struggle. Drop me a line at [e-mail] if you'd like to talk. I'll be praying for you.

Answer 2

Be grateful that life has taught you a lesson, and that you had felt love and companionship the past 2 years. If cutting yourself could solve the problem, there would be blood everywhere in the streets.

Suicide is a selfish thought, think of your parents. Your mother went through all the pain hardship of pregnency and child birth, while your father worked hard to provide you with all the needs of a child. And they did so much more to raise you up. You're only 13, they still have high hopes for you.

As well, not everybody has the priviledge of experiencing romantic relationships. Some people are born into this world in such a way where they are somewhat different from the rest of the normal people. These people will probably never get to experience it, but they still face up to life.

For now, just give yourself a good vacation. Time will solve all your problems.

Answer 3

First of all, suicide is a serious issue, and if you are having those feelings you should seek professional help.
I know how hard it is, to put so much energy and care into a person, and feel completely heart broken by that person. What you are going through right now, is happening to many people. You're not alone.
Remember, that it is important to understand that you have a choice. This girl cannot control your feelings, or your actions. Don't allow yourself to make her responsible for those feelings you are having. It's not fair to her or yourself.
The world is an amazing and wonderful place. You may feel so clouded by your relationship with her, that you are not seeing what is beyond her. There is so much more to life.
Also, to really benefit and enjoy your relationship, you must feel comfortable with yourself! You are going to have so many relationships in your lifetime, that you must just take this relationship as a learning experience! Let her go! Don't allow her to treat you like an extra comfort pillow. Allow this pain to help you grow into a better person.
Things you can do to feel better: Move on, take a deep breath, do some reflective writing, talk to a friend, discover a new talent, take a cool class, be creative!
Think of yourself as a new man! You've been really hurt, and the only way you feel like you can numb the pain is by hurting yourself, but you must now make a committed decision to do better. Be your wonderful self, and know that you will move on! Everything will turn out okay.

Answer 4

You need to sit down with an adult you trust and discuss your suicidal thoughts and cutting on yourself. These are serious actions you are taking and cutting on yourself is sign enough that you need some help by professionals.
I can tell you I had a long hard road from preteen times until adulthood. I too was a cutter. For those of us who have been there this is a blatant cry for help.
As far as suicide over a girl, and you are only 13. I would get another girlfriend if I were you. She isn't worth ending your life. Do you honestly think it will make a difference in her life? More on and leave her to him, she isn't worth your time, let alone love.
Life's not really so bad, I know it seems that way to you now, but, believe me there are a lot of good times ahead for you, you have to be willing to face life and go on when the bad times are here.
Talk to an adult that you feel safe with and trust to help you with these problems.
What do you have to loose? You are thinking about suicide already. You really should take the time to find out if suicide is your choice. Suicide is like definite and once committed can't be undone. Life it has its downside, but it goes on and those good times come. God Bless and Keep You Safe.

Answer 5

You are only 13, and that is too early to die without living more of your life to see what good experiences you may come across later.

Don't let some girl take that away from you. You've gotta stand up for yourself.

And cutting does not solve the problem, right? So that's not something you should be doing. (Besides, it freaking hurts!!)

"i need help."
^very good. you do. And its easy to get.

First, call these toll free 24 hr suicide prevention hotlines, which have counselors waiting to talk to you:

1-800-SUICIDE

1-800-273-TALK

All you need to do is dial the number, and let the rest happen by itself.

Follow their instructions, and talk to an adult/parent/friend you trust as well.

After professional help, you will feel much better. I have a friend who went thru a really depressing time with his parents, but he got help at school with the nurse and now he's totally changed, looks really good, and has a lot of girls who leave him messages on his myspace!

There's always hope, don't give up on yourself. You'll be surprised at how better you'll feel, NATURALLY too.

Call them tonight.

Answer 6

Listen, NO ONE but NO ONE worths you finish with your life. You are very young and there will be other girls. The thing you must do is tell to your parents you feel depressed because you got serious signs of depression. You need to get a psychiatrist help. You are hurting yourself and that's a sign of a a deep depression.
Consider before doing that again because that girl despite she was your girlfriend, she is not the world. You have other people who love you and who would feel totally sad if you die and specially if you die in that way.
Please go with a therapist or if you have a kind of this in school please go there. You need it.
I lived the same thing over a guy and after I realized a person is not the world or my whole life, it is just a part of my life. If you do something like suicide and you go to the hospital, you will feel terrible, believe me.
I beg you to see a therapist.

Answer 7

FIRST, YOU DON'T PUT IT ON YAHOO ANSWERS,I'VE DONE IT BEFORE.TRUST ME PEOPLE WILL REPORT YOU.YAHOO WILL ACT ON SUICIDE THOUGHTS OR ATTEMPTS,TRUST ME!!!!!
I KNOW YOU FEEL YOU LOVE THIS CHICK, BUT SOMETIMES PEOPLE JUST AREN'T GOOD MATES.MAYBE YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HER.I KNOW ITS PAINFUL,BUT SUICIDE IS TOTALY NOT THE WAY.I'VE TRIED IT 4 TIMES, AND EACH TIME I CAME OUT ALIVE,I GUESS THAT MEANS GOD ISN'T READY YET. IF YOU'VE TRIED BEFOR ALSO,THAT MEANS HE'S NOT READY FOR YOU EITHER( i dont think you"ve tried,have you). OH, AND THE CUTTING,YEAH I DID THAT TOO,IT FEELS GREAT RIGHT? I MEAN,ALL YOUR PAIN IS CONTROLLED BY YOU AND YOU ONLY.YOU CAN FINALY DECIDE YOUR FATE.I'M ACTUALLY NOT SURE WHAT TO TELL YOU ABOUT CUTTING,BECAUSE I PERSONALLY USED TO ENJOY IT.
IT WOULDN'T WORK FOR ME TO TELL YOU STOP BECAUSE YOU WON'T.PEOPLE TELL ME ( i mean used) ALL THE TIME, DOESN'T MEAN I'D QUIT RIGHT AWAY.WHEN YOUR HURT AS DRASTICALLY AS YOU WERE,ITS SOMETIMES WAY TO HARD TO GET OVER IT.

I KNOW I'M TOTALLY NOT REALLY ANSWERING YOUR QUESTION,BUT IT MIGHT FEEL BETTER TO HAVE THIS ANSWER RATHER THAT THE REGULAR " don't do this or don't do that " OR " cutting is bad". CUTTING IS BAD,BUT i REALLY KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.
TRY WRITING EXACTLY WHAT YOU FEEL KNOW MATTER HOW GRAPHIC OR SUICIDLE OR EMOTIONAL IT IS.WRITE ONLY IN RED WHEN DOING THIS AND WRITE EXACTLY WHAT YOU FEEL.JUST MAKE SURE NO ONE ,EVEN YOUR MOM DOESN'T SEE IT.I HAVE A BOOK MY SELF.IT TOTALLY WORKS.WHEN YOUR MAD OR UPSET QUICKLY JOT DOWN WHATEVER DISTURBING THOUGHTS YOU HAVE.
IT COULD REALLY SAVE YOU A TRIP FROM A MENTAL HOSPITAL,THOSE AREN'T EXACTLY FUN.TO MANY RULES AND REGULATIONS,THEN YOU'LL BE EVEN MORE DEPRESSED THAN YOU ARE NOW.

Answer 8

Wow, sorry to hear things didn't go well in your dating arena, but hurting yourself isn't the answer...the answer is accepting that this has happened to you, and as unfair as it may seem things will get better. There is nothing stopping you from dating anyone else either...who knows, you may end up dating someone you have a lot more in common with. However, you have time to sort out what the issues were between you and your old girlfriend but you need to calm down a lot more to focus more clearly. If it turns out that you did nothing wrong, then it will be her loss for losing someone she could have had, but your future girlfriend will be glad you decided to ask her out. If you feel you need to talk to someone right now and the pain is too much for you, ask someone to bring you to emergency. They will be more than willing to help you sort all of your anxiety, don't hesitate, to go ask for help. Only you know how you feel, and it's only one call away if you can't cope with this very well. Just dial 911 or have someone drive you to the emergency ward. I hope that was helpful...please take good care of yourself...people do care!

Answer 9

You should talk to an adult or consider therapy. You need help. Don't resort to suicide. Don't try to kill yourself just because some girl dumped you. Talk to a councelor or anyone. You still have your whole life to live and there are plenty of girls out that you deserve to be with way more than her. If she has a boyfriend and is still dating you, then she's probably leading both of you guys on cuz' that would be cheating. Talk to someone about this. You are too young to consider suicide and even though you still like her a lot, that doesn't mean you should cut yourself. TALK TO SOMEONE!

Answer 10

You will survive and you will be so happy when you meet a girl that is just right for you. You are so young and trust me, there will be many girls in your future. It is hard to let go of someone you have good memories with and who you know well. Keep in mind that you have so many new girls just out there waiting to meet you. You are too young to be looking for a committment like this. After a few years, you wil probably look back at this and ask yourself what were you thinking. For the time being, please be happy and think of ways to build yourself up instead of destroying yourself. On a serious note, if you have truly thought of suicide, you need to get professional help/