My husband and i have been married for a year and a half , i am 20 and hes 22 . I want to start haveing kids when im 23 but he wants to wait untill im 25.... i want to know when its a good time to start haveing kids?
2006-07-26 14:54:38 · 19 answers · asked by audri 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you wait for a "good time," that time will never come. There will always be something that isn't quite right yet. As long as you are ready to handle a complete lifestyle change and take on the responsibility for life, then go for it.
2006-07-26 15:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Amber D 3 · 11⤊ 5⤋
If you haven't got a degree or your not in college...go!!! I had my daughter when I was 20 now I am 23 and just now going back to college. It is so hard to go back when you have kids. I also wish I had spent some more alone time with my husband. I would definately wait until both you and your husband are on the same page about when you both want to start having children.
2006-07-26 16:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were your age and married and felt confident my husband would be a good father, I would start having them now. You either want to have kids young before your career really starts , or later when your already established- not in the middle of things while you're struggling! I'm 37 now and wish I'd done it the early way, but I didn't find the right guy.
2006-07-26 15:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I just turned 21 not long ago. I had my kid when I was 20. Now he's 5 months old. I suggest most women wait untill they are 25+ because most women are not emotionally and physically ready to have a child and most importantly, most of them are not financially secure when they are under 25 years of age!
2006-07-26 15:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by Stella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
24
2006-07-26 14:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 25 is fine. Thirty is better. Make sure you have some fun before you have the kids. My husband and I were together for 4 years before our child. We traveled to Australia on our honeymoon.
Enjoy life. Bond. Then have kids.
2006-07-26 14:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have eachother, and stable jobs that are good enough to support your kids and yourselves, then I would say 23 is the best age, not too late or not too early. The younger you are, the more time and energy you have to devote to your child. You can always go back to your job or career after you've had your child.
Goodluck with your decision =P!
2006-07-26 15:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by toxic_candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you both are financially stable. Age doesn't matter much. But don't wait to long so hurry and get financially fit. It cost lots and lots of money, love, and time. You want to be able to be young and spend time with your kids don't you? Don't wait until you are 35. That is too, late for me. Your kid will be 20 and you will be 65 what is up with that? lots of stuff. You want to be around when your kids have kids don't you?
2006-07-26 15:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by honey red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i waited a little longer, ideally i wish i waited until 27, 28. i had my son at 24, daughter at 26. i basically just wish i gave myself a few more years to do things for myself first. you have no idea how much sacrifice it takes being a parent. your needs will be put on the back burner for a very very very long time and parenting isn't easy. kids are a gift but gosh you gotta work for it!! also i think we would have been more financially stable if we waited a few more years.
2006-07-26 19:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have settled into your career and have had some fun with your husband. You have all the time in the world for kids. Have fun, travel, and then think about kids. Enjoy your freedom while you can.
2006-07-26 15:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm maybe you should wait till you or your husband got a stable jobs and then starts to plan
2006-07-26 14:57:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋