As of lately,im not able to climax as I use to. Does using a toy/vibrator desensitize the sensation when done orally/manually by my partner?
2006-07-26 14:51:41 · 7 answers · asked by Chris 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I haven't pleasured myself as often in the past month either. Well, not as much as I use to... or can it be that im not comfortable with my partner, or myself to let myself go?
Maybe I think too much?
2006-07-26 14:55:57 · update #1
I noticed the same thing. It's just not as fast when a person is doing it. I don't know if it's temporary. Before I know I'm going to have sex, I lay off of masturbating for a week prior. Trust me, it works.
2006-07-26 14:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the frequency and intensity of the toy/vibrator use. Also, the great thing about toys is you can easily control what you want, where you want it, and how you want it. Sadly, there is no easy road for the partner to know these things. Sometimes the old ways just don't work anymore because you're used to them. If you guys have tried something new orally/manually, then go back to the old. If you're still using the old ways, try something new. If you're still having problems after you switch it up, put the toys on the shelf for a minimum of a week, and get back to finding what makes you happy and climax like you'd like. Good luck!
2006-07-26 21:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by holleygirl11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The frequency of the toy use might be the thing, if you have used it a lot your threshold for release may have gotten higher, if you abstain from using it or your hand for a few days things will improve. It might also be psychological you may believe that you need the toy to achieve climax, in which case you just have to put it out of your head!
2006-07-26 22:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by tony tedeschi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously yes. Lay off of the toy for a while. I promise you that will help. And do some visualization, not thinking about how good the toy was though, you have to be into the moment. Wishing you orgasms abundant!
2006-07-26 23:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Repeated behavior - depending on how often it is repeated,
will "desensitize" your libido towards it.
Solution: Change the behavior.
If you've spent a lot of quality time with a vibrator, try something
different like fluids, feathers and fun.
2006-07-26 21:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH MAY HAVE ALOT TO DO WITH IT OR COULD YOU BE IN A STRESSFUL TIME RIGHT NOW AND THAT COULD HAVE ALOT TO DO WITH YOU NOT BEING ABLE TO CLIMAX. IF YUOR SCARED YOU ARE ALSO ABLE TO SHUT DOWN THE THING S THAT ARE GOING ON WITH YOUR BODY. I KNOW I CAN STOP IT IF I AM FEELING WRONG, SAD , DEPRESSED, SO ON
2006-07-26 22:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vibrators can cause that problem if u tend to use it more. i 4 got the reason why it happens. but it can happen.
2006-07-26 21:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by rhino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋