I fell for this married guy. I am married also. This guy and I don't spend alot of time together but he always tells me that he loves me. The times that we are together it is limited. He calls me and treats me all good. He doesn't do anything to disrespect her though. That's why our time is always limited. Do you think he really love the both of us. He once told me that if he was a single man he had no doubt in his mind that he would move me in with him.
2006-07-26 14:50:54 · 27 answers · asked by Ms. Cool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I must not leave out that my husband does cheat and have an outside child.
2006-07-26 15:07:41 · update #1
Yes, it *is* possible to love more than one person. HOWEVER, it is unlikely that this is the case in your situation.
You are both having an affair. This is the first problem. Ever heard the phrase "the grass is always greener on the other side"? You two aren't spending enough time together to really determine "love", and it seems that most affairs are based on lust, not love.
Sure, he'd move you in, but would he keep you?
You really need to examine why you are cheating. If you can not find a reason to stay, then leave. Either way, stop cheating.
2006-07-26 15:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Dion V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loves his wife then it is not how love should be.. and a man can tell you all kinds of things... i would not keep seeing him...one thing you are married and he is married ...all can come out of this if it is found out is hurt and pain.. do you love your husband...i think love is being faithful, trustworthy, loyal to the man you married.. if he was abusing you, or not taking care of you the way a husband should i might see some cause ....but if he loves his wife there is not going to be anything else except sex between you two...and how did you go about doing this if you really love your husband....i hope there is no kids involved.. i am sorry to put it to you like this but this is true.. i had a abusive husband and unfaithful, and i wasted 23 years of my life just cause i wanted to see the children raised.. the children get hurt so much when things like this happen.. i have had so much damage from my ex-husband ...i really think trust would be the big issue for me..if you can not trust your own husband or wife then i do not think you have much of a relationship...sometimes other women and men look good for a time, but that does not mean it is love..
2006-07-26 22:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's possible to love one guy and be infatuated, or in lust for another. You talk about the other guy, but not your husband. Could be if you'd pay the attention to your husband and find out what your problem is that you might find you love your husband more than you think.
The other guy , as you said, spends limited time with you. You know then that he spends a lot of time with his wife. You should also stop to think that you don't really know him like a woman gets to know her man..bad habits and good. For all you know, he might be a lousy husband; messing around with your head is proof of that.
Take a good look at your marriage, life isn't a soap opera and real affection and respect are worth working for. annie Bee
2006-07-26 22:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to be in love with more than one man. The trick is whether or not it is really love or whether it is physical attraction, boredom, unhappiness, or whatever can often disguise itself as love. There are 2 things that I have learned: (1) that no matter what the two of you may want to believe, he IS disrespecting his wife by his involvement with you, and (2) it's easy for people to say that if he loved you he would leave his wife for you, but life is much more complicated than that, there are reasons other than love that dictate our decisions, and love doesn't always conquer all. I'm not giving you advice one way or another--because I have been in this situation, and I have years of experience and age on you, I just wanted to share my perspective.
2006-07-26 22:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by besoseda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIsten tho the lady that says she has two boyfriends that she loves, she says stay away from married men well if she would of stayed at she would have an ex, and she goes to prove you cant love two people cause one of them knowing of this situation is going to feel cheated, so you actually have a thing and a fling going on but neither are love for love takes commmitment....
2006-07-26 22:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Rocco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can be in love with more than one person at a time. No doubt about it. I am in love with two totally different guys but truly I am in love with them both. They both satisfy different needs that I have. But I am single and so are they. Stay away from married men please!!! I was married before and my husband cheated and I will never ever be the same. It is a devastating feeling. Please stay away from married men!
2006-07-26 21:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Martha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen Lady,it's called Forbidden Fruit. That's the attraction. Back up,go home,and life on your memories while you can. This whole thing isn't worth giving up the married life you and your husband have worked at. Nothing is right about any of it.
2006-07-26 21:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably really loves you, but it's not real enough to be a marriage and you should move on. You are second priority and you'll spend holidays. Do you like and enjoy feeling second best? Because in reality, you are just a diversion to this man. He is being pretty selfish.
2006-07-26 22:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i think if he really loved the other person than he wouldnt be talking to you on the side. plus why would you want to know that? and if you want a man that cheats now he would cheat later to. so you must not want much in a man. becuase you could find one of thoses any where
2006-07-26 22:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by girl19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the answers will be talking about lust..remember that u told ur husband that u will join him in bad and good situations...try to be closer to ur husband...seek for his good part...when u love someone u love him or her and it makes ur mind so busy...any other feelings shouldn't be lust..but u just admire another person so much that u think u love him....the one who should answer that is 2 things...
1)something happens to one of them...like atrouble or something...this shows u ur real feelings about this peson or the other..and believe me...u will panic more when it's ur husband
2)u should go with urself and ask ur heart...don't keep on touch with both of them and ask ur heart(who do u really miss?)...and be sure that u get an honest answer.
2006-07-26 21:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by doctor^love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋