My doctor has given me this choice for my upcoming November c-section. I'm 38, I'm done with having babies, both of my pregnancies were slightly high-risk, I'm thinking I should go ahead and have it done.
BUT... I thought those same thoughts before my first baby was born. I started the paperwork to have the procedure done, but the baby came before the paperwork was finalized, and the on-call doctor was not authorized to perform the procedure.
Here I am now, pregnant *again*, and happy as all-get-out that I did not have my tubes tied three years ago.
I guess my main concern is, GOD FORBID.... what if this baby does not fare well, or something happens, and I want to have another but can't. Worst case scenario, and I hate myself for even thinking it, but I'm paranoid that way.
In short: I'm soooooo done with having kids, and am basically SURE that I don't want more, but am daunted by the FINALITY of a tubal. Any thoughts or shared experiences would be appreciated. Thanks!
2006-07-26 14:40:00 · 6 answers · asked by clueless: please be kind 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would suggest something long-term and reliable but also reversible. Ask your doctor about the IUD (good for 3-5 years) or depo-provera shots (get one every 3 months). You sound unsure about the finality of sterilization, and it's not for everyone. Since you are within a decade or so of natural infertility, I would go with something you don't have to about every day but can stop if you do change your mind before the change, so to speak.
Good luck with your new baby - I'm sure everything will be fine.
2006-07-26 14:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by Novice restauranteur 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A tubal igation is not necessarily "finality" My wife gave birth 4 years after tubal ligation. You are 38 years od now. By the time your child has grown and leading their own life you will be about 60. That's the time you should be enjoying your life without the pressures of raising a family.
If the unimaginable should happen and you cannot deliver again there's always the possibility of sharing your life with a child who is not fortunate enough to have loving parents in theirs.
Best wishes and good luck with your delivery.
2006-07-26 14:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by ©2009 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my tubes tied after I gave birth to my second child. I am so glad I did it because 2 kids are plenty and I don't have to worry about birth control anymore!! That is the best time to have it done though cause you are already cut open and everything is right there. But if you're not sure then you shouldn't do it!
2006-07-26 14:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Stranger In Maine™♥ (Thriller) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could choose a different type of birth control for a couple years. I have an IUD for a couple years now and its been great. Its an effective form of birth control and low maintenance. Then in a couple of years you could have your tubes tied. That way you have more time to plan and you don't feel so rushed. Talk to your doctor about all you options before you make your decision.
2006-07-26 14:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant with my 3rd one also.The doctor asked if while he was doing the c-section if I wanted him to tie my tubes.Anyways I thought about it and thought about it some more.I decided i'm not going to.Just cause i'm not sure.What if something does happen to this baby??Or what if later down the road I want another kid???Or something like that.If you aren't for sure you shouldn't do it.
2006-07-26 15:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Danielle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband get it snipped - for God's sake. let them have to do SOMETHING!
2006-07-26 14:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by majikposhun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋