I get disrespect from ppl of all ages. Why do ppl feel like me being nice, I'm putting myself in the position to be misused & abused? I have foster & biological family & even a TWIN, & not one member loves me. People try 2 intimidate or threaten me into getting what they want out of me. I wonder. How am I always considered an easy target?
My foster mom said I'm gonna wind up in jail or dead one day & deserve it, & my foster brother in law said I put myself in the position 2 DESERVE 2 be misused & abused. Is this mental abuse? Also, my foster mom says that ppl have a right 2 disrespect & misuse me.
2006-07-26 14:29:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
You obviously have come from an abusive background and haven't learned how to properly defend yourself against it. You might benefit from some counseling to learn to break away from such abusive influences, and eventually get away from them and start a new life elsewhere.
Having come from a similar background myself, I know what you're going through. I was 30 before I realized that very little was wrong with me and the meanness shown toward me had more to do with themselves than it did with me.
I strongly recommend that you buy "The Emotionally Abused Woman" by Beverly Engel. She's a psychologist who herself came from an abusive background and had a lot to overcome. She gives a lot of insight where it will be easy to see yourself, as well as your abusers in the book, and gives you pointers on how to break away from it. It was the best $15 I ever spent, and my life changed once I read that book, after years of therapy, I broke away from my family, who are left in Texas and I now live in Canada.
2006-07-26 14:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by imagineworldwide 4 · 15⤊ 4⤋
No one ever, ever has the right to be disrespectful to you. Make sure you respect yourself first and formost and if others start calling you down walk away. If they really love you they will get the picture if you walk out a few times. You do not even have to be mean just say this is not the way I want to be treated and leave the situation. No one should be a doormat. Good luck to you
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2016-12-14 14:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by danzey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry you're experiencing this.
sounds like your foster mom and bro are verbally abusing you.
my guess is that their resentment stems from insecurities and issues within themselves. perhaps they feel in order to release some pent up negative emotion, they need a target, in this case you.
No One deserves to be misused/abused. and certainly not you.
you're 22, are you in school? or can you get a job away from your "family?" would be good that you can a circle of other kind nice people to support you and love you. church may be a good place to find support network too.
Don't give up. I will be praying for you.
God bless you
2006-07-26 14:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just a little tooo nice and seem passive. In result, people like taking advantage of making you angry just for the fun of it. but ignore it, their usually doing it because they're jerks. Don't let people push you around, because you could be nice and let people respect you, only if you have confidence and respect for your self.
dont let them get to you and use their hostile words on your "never to say" list. don let their words turn you into a bad person because being kind & nice, is a gift that not a lotta people have. even though some negative people might put you down, there a lot of people that need a bit kindness in their life and their obviously one of them.
2006-07-26 14:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy crap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! your foster mother is sick!!!!!!!!! nobody has the right to mistreat you and disrespect and because your nice it isnt a reason but maybe you should toughen up and start to defend yourself and stop people from walking all over you and telling you this horrible untrue things!!!!!I dont see how you are going to end up in jail when you as you say are a nice and kind person?? how for kicking her a$$??!!! well maybe, but it is mental abuse and you are 22 and you dont have to put up with that crap! get out and never come back ( i did and I am glad that I did, I am married to a man that loves me and worships me and a wonderful baby boy , he is 3, who loves me and I thank god for letting me get out of there when I did( I left when I was 17)
2006-07-26 14:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Candy,
I'm sorry for the trouble you are having. Here is a hard truth: No one HAS to act a certain way just because we are nice to them. It's the whole idea of "should" - "should" is a dangerous word. When I say "I'm nice to people, they SHOULD be nice to me," I'm making up a rule for others to live by, and they are under no obligation to obey my rule.
The good part is that no one has the right to make up rules for you. No one can expect that you "should" act a certain way either.
I know it's still a difficult situation. Can you move away from those people?
Love Jack
2006-07-26 14:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what people say, no one and I mean no one has the right to abuse anyone, or take advantage of anyone. Evidentally they think they are so much better off than you but you will be the one who winds up the best in the end.
2006-07-26 14:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You issue is too complex for this forum to answer. There is a lot more going on than you can say here.
Have you sought counsel ling? That's a good place to begin. It will help you identify who you are, what makes you tick and how to interact with other types of people.
You could surprise your family and come out better that they expect!
2006-07-26 14:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had that same problem. they do it becuz they know you wont get mad. the only way to get respect is to step up to them.
2006-07-26 14:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋