I told my boyfriend that I wouldn't wait any longer than 19 for him to want to get married to me. That's only because we've been dating for a while and 19 is 1 year away. I'm tired of him thinking that it's ok for him to stay with me for a long time and only say that he wants to get married to me EVENTUALLY. What should I do?
2006-07-26 14:23:48 · 20 answers · asked by Curious&can'twait 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
19 is way too young. Wait a while but if you and your boyfriend have already been together for a least 3 years already then you are ready. But it's mainly his decision to marry you since he should be the one proposing.
2006-07-26 14:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by moviefan190 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world do you want to be married at 19?
You haven't even experienced life yet. Go travel, study, meet people, collect experiences. Then, when you have a good grip on what's out there, make up your mind. Think beyond what you know now. Aren't there places out there that you want to see? Things you want to do?
Once you're married and have children, you're bound by your responsibilities and trust me... it's not some romantic love fest once you have children. Then you'll have to deal with real life, making money, etc. If you want some sort of a stronger commitment from your boyfriend, then get engaged, but don't marry just yet. Besides, it seems as if your boyfriend already knows that it's too early to be married and I would agree with him. If you push the issue, he'll feel pressured and that's a recipe for disaster.
2006-07-26 14:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST.. stop forcing someone that isnt ready to get married, its hard enough on a marriage when they both go into wanting it.. let alone when they end up resenting a decision they were forced into.. SECOND.. u need to wait till u grow up, your already acting immature by trying to basically give him an altimadum to suit your needs .. THIRD.. you need to go to school and get a good paying job before u get married, because statistics show that most "KIDS" and yes u are a kid, although the law says ur an adult your a kid.. WHEN MOST KIDS get married it doesnt work, so there u'll be in a divorce by age 23 with 2 kids, and he's going to walk out and u'll have a crappy job that u can barely make it by.. why??????? cause to u marriage was a fantasy, and it didnt go the way u wanted it to go and now ur kids have to pay the price because u were dumb and stupid and forced ur bf to marry u when he wasnt ready and u urself were ready.. GOOD GOING.. be young, have a young ADULT life, stop trying to grow up so fast, if he is the one for u, waiting a few years isnt going to change you being together for a life time..
2006-07-26 14:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to get married. You're barely out of high school and you want to trap yourself in a marriage? Live your own life for awhile, so when you do get married, you will be a better mate. Besides, if this guy is your first boyfriend, then he definitely is not going to be the right guy as your husband. You need to meet more people, experience more things in life. Figure out who YOU are. The guy definitely sounds like he is too young to get married.
Think about marriage in about 10 years. Have some fun, and whatever you do, don't get pregnant.
2006-07-26 14:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by grrandram 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19? You don't think that is a little too soon. I mean. At that age you are hardly stable. Don't you want a career? That is hard to do when you are married. When I get married, I plan on being financially stable. That is when I plan on getting my first house, and I want to travel a lot, can't do that still in school with no money. Did you know that money is one of the number one killers of marriages. Its true.
2006-07-26 14:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19, I'm 29 now and everything is still going strong..
Only thing is I would never put a marriage ultimatum on a man, he will simply ask you when he is ready..
Many "forced" marriages end in bad ways a few years or less after they start, even if it was a long term romance..
good luck and let him decide when he is ready to ask you...
2006-07-26 14:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah slow down! You're only 18. I don't think he's crazy to want to get married "eventually." You're both young and should concentrate on enjoying your time together. If you still love each other in a few years, thats great...then get married. Best of luck!
2006-07-26 14:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can continue to pressure him if you wish, but you are both probably still very young and have a very long future ahead of you. I wouldnt rush into marriage so quickly. There are so many other things you could do.
I would relax and enjoy your relationship. Marriage isnt the most important thing in the world. Its whether you two are truly happy with each other.
Theres a risk of him leaving you if you pressure him to much. Men see that as a sign of a future 'nag'
Good luck with your man
2006-07-26 14:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Midnghtangls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why people think marriage is the end all- for example he wont cheat on you if you have a ring on your finger, ive got news for you sister, a relationship is a relationship, ring or no ring, and 19 is WAY too young, in another year youll like a whole other species of guys anyway
2006-07-26 14:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by maisie24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're telling him you're not waiting past a certain age to get married, it doesn't sound like you're getting married for the right reason. Why are you putting a number on it? Why don't you get married when you guys feel ready? When you're financially stable? When everything is right?
2006-07-26 14:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by dianee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋