2006-07-26 14:15:45 · 12 answers · asked by GREG B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been with her for 9 months and she i pay for everything and asked her dad for her hand in marriage. The ex just hates me because I have money. Can he legally prevent me from seeing there son I live with her and her son.
2006-07-26 14:46:18 · update #1
I do love her and I am not here to take his son away I am just here to be a role model and support my girlfriend and her son. I have tried to be nice to him he just doesn't care and is very mental abusive to my girlfriend with name calling but I stay out of it.
2006-07-26 14:53:42 · update #2
Never date people with kids. It's called "baggage" and it weighs a lot.
2006-07-26 14:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably.
First, ask yourself if you are serious about a relationship with your girlfriend. If so, continue on. There is nothing wrong with becoming involved with a woman who already has a kid, but there will be somethings you will simply have to deal with.
First, that the child's father has every right to be in his son's life.
(Wouldn't you want to be in your son's life if you had one?)
Next, understand that the child is really not your responsibility, and that you should never take it upon yourself to punish the child.
As for the kids father, he is probably afraid of losing his son.
You could be a man and let him know that you respect the fact that he is the childs father, that you would never dream of coming between them, that you support his right to be a part of his son's life and that you would want the same thing if the tables were turned. That way, he knows you understand his perspective.
If he is still a prick from that point, then that is his problem.
Your girlfriend has the right to get on with her life.
If he becomes aggressive, he risks losing parental rights from a court of law.
Best of luck.
2006-07-26 14:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Gonzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically the ex is afraid of being replaced. Imagine yourself in his position. Would you want another man in your sons life when you aren't there 24/7 like you used to be.
A good word of advice for the well being of the child. Don't include him with the 2 of you much until you know the relationship is in stable, serious (going to get married) level. Then slowly start involving him with the 2 of you. This way if the relationship doesn't work, you and the child don't get too attached and he won't have to suffer separation anxiety....again.
2006-07-26 14:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like jealousy but it could be a misjudgement. He may see you as a bad influence. No offense just a suggestion. If you know you're a good guy then you may need to let him get to know you and see the real you but then again it could be jealousy. Now that you just need to ignore. If the mother doesnt mind you around her son and she has legal custody then their's nothing he can do but accept it.
~Rickeisha
2006-07-26 14:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rickeisha AKA Keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dude---whenever someone comes with a package---the package will always be involved!!
You need to look at the big picture----Are you willing to be a part of that child's life ---a positive influence!!! and is she willing to let you!
The ex had his chance---or maybe he wants back in!
you need to ask your girlfriend where are you expecting to go from here---10, 20 , 30 years down the road----because if you aren't going to be in the picture then then you need to get out!
No ones child should be exposed to every guy that she thinks is cute! He needs stability!
2006-07-26 14:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you said she is a new girlfriend so I would give it some time and when you both decide that it is a for sure thing then tell him too bad , if you are a nice guy then he shouldnt be so pissy, what does your girlfriend think of it? does she get off to him being jealous? because if thats the case you need to move on,
2006-07-26 14:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women with children should not be deemed as "baggage". Things happen. you need to talk with your girlfriend and see how serious she is. If she's willing to make it work and put the father in his place, then stay with her. If she's playing games...dump her.
Please do NOT bash women with kids. You never know the situation.
Rickeisha B has a really good question!
2006-07-26 14:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how men are going to feel when their son is around another father figure. Eventually he will get over it, that is if you stick around. The man is jealous b/c you are going to see more of his son than he is, and that bothers him. But it will get better, if you like this girl, I am sure it will get better. good luck to ya
2006-07-26 14:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by luvinmjc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 16:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by kemmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU GOT IT.. HE IS JEALOUS, AND NO MATTER HOW GOOD YOU ARE TO THE KID, HE WILL ALWAYS FIND A REASON TO DISLIKE YOU , ITS SAD BUT ITS TRUE.. I WOULD THINK REAL HARD B4 GETTING TO INVOLVED.. WATCH YOUR BACK, HE MAY TRY ANYTHING TO START TROUBLE, SO BE VERY CAREFUL.
2006-07-26 14:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋