I wanna stay her friend, but she's bisexually promiscuous & sexually wants me, but she's the only friend I got-my BEST friend. I wanna stay her friend, but I don't wanna have sex with her. None of her friends accept me, & they misuse & abuse me.
She's way more beautiful than I am, & she's my only physical positive inspiration. She doesn't hurt me like my foster & biological family. Some ppl prejudge her & tell me I shouldn't hang with her. She's very good to me. She's like my sister. I REALLY want to stay her friend. Should I do what my heart says & stay her friend or drop her & stay alone with no one 2 turn 2 4 support?
Maybe my family is jealous because I have such a great friend. She showers me with a lot of gifts. & they demand an answer 4 where I got it from, & they also demand an answer 4 my personal business.
I really don't wanna lose her as a friend, & I'm heterosexual. What should I do? Thanks.
2006-07-26 14:03:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You just need to sit down and lay out boundaries for your friendship with her. communication is the key to any successful relationship.
2006-07-26 14:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Milkman 3 · 19⤊ 2⤋
I think it would be worthwhile for you to stay friends with her and try to discreetly provide a good example of how to conduct one's personal life, help her to think about the consequences of what she does with her body.
Because she is doing stuff she's going to regret later. She'll find out when there are third parties that relationships get wrecked, she'll find out what breakups are all about - the hard way - that sex is not a toy and that third parties and breakups are not supposed to happen after you do that.
So she'll regret - when it's quite possibly too late to undo the damage - that she didn't fix things sooner with one special man to really put each other first (even above Mom and Dad) and make a permanent commitment to each other (and wait until that's even a possibility before having any kind of sexual relationship at all)(*).
And it sounds, from what you say about your friendship, like you may well have the job of helping her clean up the mess when (at this point not 'if') it happens. So you might want to put some thought into how you're going to do that.
I think you can stay friends with her on two conditions: it needs to be crystal clear that you plan to remain only friends, and it would be a good idea to tell her to go easy on the gifts because it's creating problems with your family.
They may well be wondering about her intentions, and from what you say, not without reason. So it will cut down on their curiosity if things aren't happening that unnecessarily draw their attention.
There, that's my two cents. May God bless you with wisdom and discernment about how to manage your relationship with her and with your family.
2006-07-26 14:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a true friend, then she will value your friendship and respect you as an individual. She will not try to coerce you into doing something you don't want, such as sex. If she does not respect your desires, then she is not a true friend but is more likely holding onto you for her personal need.
Are you questioning your own motives in maintaining the relationship as friends? Perhaps you are projecting your needs onto her?
Do you ever entertain any notions about experimenting sexually with your friend? You may be curious and having troubles with that.
Whatever. You should value your friends and they you.
It's a two-way street. If she values you, she'll respect you.
2006-07-26 14:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by no one here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your best friend, you should be able to approach her with this problem and discuss it openly. Let her know your position on each others friendship. She should understand. Other than that, her sexual orientation is irrelevant to something that's just a friendship. That is nothing to stop the two of you from being friends. And in regards to her friends and your family, their opinion is something to consider, but ultimately it's your decision to make and no one elses. And if you can't resolve the problem, it's not difficult to develop new friendships with new people. Just know who you are and embrace it. Take care!
2006-07-26 14:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by flod_prfekshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she's no longer a slut and if she lost her virginity at 20 then she waited longer than maximum youngsters do.it is a question that really might want to under no circumstances be requested of everybody,it is deepest information so stop the interogation
2016-10-15 06:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your friend and she's good to you - what else is there? It's your business, and you don't have to take the relationship to a sexual place if you don't want to. You also don't have to be around people who misuse and abuse you - stand up for yourself - even if it pisses them off! What are they going to do? Be mean to you? They are already!
And for god's sake, enroll in an art class or something so you can meet new people.
2006-07-26 14:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to make a difficult choice. You have to choose if you want to be a good, wholesome and healthy person or not. If you brake up with your friend it will hurt you, it will be hard. If you stay her friend it will kill you, and you will never be able to regain your life again.
You will have to do new things to find new friends. Join some clubs, be a social person..
2006-07-26 14:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was going to say to stay her friend UNTIL you mentioned that she was sexually intersted in you. In that case I would stay away from her.
With friends like that - you don't need enemies.
You can and will make more friends if you have the courage of your convicitons (stand up for what you believe)
2006-07-26 14:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by helpme1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is NOT a friend you want to have!!!!
First of all---the showering of gifts is to lure you into her clutches!!!
Wise up!!! You need to step back and take a good look at what you are saying!!! If you can be lured by a girl you are going to be an easy target for the guys!!!
Be true to yourself!!! Have high standards for your life---know where you are going and take strides to go there!!! but get rid of this self-pity!
God loves you and HE has great plans for your life!!! SEEK HIM and all your perspective will change!!!
2006-07-26 14:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends with her, and have meaningless sex with her!
2006-07-26 14:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremiah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that u will sty her friend but she needs to keep her feelers to her self about wanting you cause it freaks you out.
2006-07-26 14:10:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋