For married people.....that have children from previous relationships?

Question

Does your partner treat them the same as their children or children you have together?

Answer 1

I was very young with 3 kids when I met my kids step-dad. My oldest was 4 and my youngest just 10 months. I had left their dad after a 5 year abusive marriage. I was very concerned with the way my second husband would treat my kids. I was at times too protective and would get upset if he tried to correct them in any way. After a couple of years I finally seen that he wasn't going to hurt them in any way and he loved them. my kids dad was completely out of the picture for ten years. Their step-dad is really the only father they have ever know. The kids are grown now and even though their step dad and I was divorced a couple of years ago the kids still have a great relationship with him. He always treated them as if they was his own and still does. They still don't have much to do with their biological father, but their step dad is a big part of their life. In my eyes he is their Dad. If a person loves you they should love your children just as much and treat them as if they are their own children. Things was not always rosie with my children but their step dad stood by them even when they drove him crazy.
He didn't have any children of his own and that may be one reason he is so good to my kids, but he didn't have to be such a good dad, but he was.

Answer 2

The answer is no...I've been married for almost 3yrs but 2gether for 5yrs. I've have 2 (son 9 and daugther 7) from a previous and he has 1(daugther 13) from a previous and we have 1(daugther 3) together. When we first started out 5yrs ago b4 our daugther was born my husband (boyfriend back then) allway treat his daugther like she did no wrong and that she would do sneaky things to my kids. (Kids stuff) like hit my kids choke them boss them around mess up my house alot things etc... I got to the point where as would yell at my kids for the stuff that she did.

I've confronted my husband (bf at the time) about her behavior and told him that she needs to stop do the things that she do b/c my kids looked up to her and did what ever she was doing and that she to big to be doing those silly things and that she needs to set the example b/c she's the oldest...he ignored me and pretty much let her continue to do what ever she did... I have somewhat became to her behavior and tolerated it so has my kids although they did look at it the way that i did. They love their BIG STEP-SISTER..Nowhat she's a little older(13) she has calm do some.

And when it come to our daugther we have 2gether I also see the difference. although she a daddy's girl he give her everything she wants and doesn't say No to her...if she see him leave out the door to go to the store she wants to follow and if my kids see him leave and want to follow him he acts like he don't want them to tag along although he takes them reluctantly...it just the attitude i see when it come to my 2 kids from a previous and the 2 that he has...

He would disipline my kids and tell what to do if they're are doing something wrong but doesn't do the same with his two especially the oldest one (13 yrs daugther) so the answer is no they are not treated the same...

and it's also difficult for me to disipline his oldest daughter b/c of him she doesn't respect me at times or listen to me when i tell her to do somethings..


SO BE VERY CAREFUL B/C KIDS PLAY TWO HANDS IN THE MIDDLE IF THEY SEE THAT THE PARENTS AREN'T TOGETHER WHEN IT COMES TO DISIPLENE

Answer 3

my husband and I try very hard to treat all the kids the same, they all get punished the same, they all have the same chores, except for the younger ones. I have 2 boys and my husband has 3 boys, ages 15,12,11,7,3...we try not to play favorites, but no matter what you do, kids always think something isnt fair...

Answer 4

Thankfully, yes.