He is very Catholic and I'm very Lutheran. Neither of us really wants to convert but how would our marriage work? Religion is important to me and our future family. How would we raise our children? What church do we get married in??
2006-07-26 13:34:31 · 10 answers · asked by MyrtleB831 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a Lutheran married to a Roman Catholic, and we are very happy together because we agree that the important thing is that there is only one God and his Son, Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior, whether you are Lutheran or Roman Catholic. Everything else is just tradition, not religion.
The first time he attended my church, he noted that the only difference in the service was that "the priest is a woman!" Actually, there are some fundamental differences, like open vs. closed communion, but those two versions of Christianity are becoming more and more alike every day. For example, we are no longer battling it out over what gets you into Heaven--Faith or Good Works. I think we now agree that if you have the Faith, the Good Works will naturally follow.
As for you and your boyfriend, if you really love each other, just choose a church and ask if you can have clergy "from the other side" assist in the ceremony. Keep in mind that the Roman Catholic Church will want you to raise your children as such--you really have to ask yourself if it is all that different. It's not like you are Jewish and he is Muslim! It's not like you are a Fundamentalist Christian in love with a Wiccan!
For the record, more Roman Catholics convert to Lutheranism than the other way around, but I don't see anything wrong with letting it happen the other way as long as you both acknowledge that it is all about the big JC! ;^)
2006-07-26 14:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by museumdoll 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't know as much about the Lutheran religion but I am Catholic and know this much if you get married outside of the Catholic church and your marriage is not blessed by it then it is not recognized in the church. I am aware that there are a lot of similarities between the two religions and Catholics believe that all children born in a marriage should be raised Catholic. If religion is an important issue to you both then you need to sit down with both your priest and see what they can tell you to illiminate future problems.
2006-07-26 13:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as religion goes, it doesn't really matter what faith you claim to be. Catholic's & Lutheran's aren't too different in beliefs & rituals. What really matters is that you both have a personal relationship with Jesus. Go to Him for the answers that you are seeking, & keep Jesus in the center of your relationship. It would probally be a good idea to talk w/each other about your beliefs & values. Make sure you are very honest with each other about your differences(which is ok. we all view some things differently than others do). Once you both have a clear understanding of what your spiritual needs are, go visit a couple of other churches that are similar to your beliefs & traditions. Remember to pray & God will lead you in the best direction. God Bless & Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. PS. I grew up in a catholic church; but as an adult,I am a Methodist now. I found the 2 to have very similar traditions; but, I believe in spiritual not just religion. I hope this helps. Best wishes.
2006-07-26 14:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right to work this out--religion can be a major stress if it isn't considered. Despite what some may tell you, you CAN get married in the Catholic Church even if he's not Catholic. I know because my brother did it. I also offered my wife the option of a Catholic wedding despite the fact that I did not wish to join, and I verified that it can happen. Luckily for you, the Lutherns are not that uptight.
2006-07-26 13:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is a former Catholic nun. She married a Lutheran. She is very religious, he isn't, so it has made those choices easier for them. I am glad you are talking about this before you get married. You may want to talk to a religious counselor who is neither Catholic nor Lutheran to help you resolve these issues before you get married.
2006-07-26 13:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all----that should have been the criteria before you became boyfriend/girlfriend!
Religious differences are what has been a number one problem since the Bible days!!!!
Israel had been intermarrying with the pagans and they were being led astray to worship pagan gods----
Now i know that Catholics and Lutherans both believe in God as a Triune and that Jesus Christ died, was buried and was resurrected and now lives!!! but their are differences in styles of prayer and worship.......Catholics do pray to saints and to Jesus' mother Mary---
Lutherans do not! they only pray to God in Jesus' name!
you need to recognize that your boyfriend needs to be saved!
2006-07-26 13:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important that you take right care about your religion before your love. Because love and god. Who would you choose? After all your love will die and so will you one day and you will have too face upto god. You will have too answer the his question. Trust me the word love won't work.
2006-07-26 13:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by ummestarz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise..you need to talk about the children too, how are they going to be raised, what religion are they going to take..you both have to be open minded about each other's religion..its complicated, so keep an open mind and heart about it :)
2006-07-26 13:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your going to let religion stand in the way of your love yur both brainwashed I say!
2006-07-26 13:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think yall should try both of them for a little while.You might learn to like his or he might learn to like yours
2006-07-26 14:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by queenmcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋