about being with guys. i admit i have had fantasies about gay sex and watched gay porn but really like having a girlfriend. what does this mean? i mean if she thinks i am gay why does she want to be with me? her and i have been intimate so i thought any doubts in her mind would be answered....not sure where she is coming from on this.
2006-07-26 13:33:11 · 11 answers · asked by drisco21 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would say that makes you bisexual. I am bisexual myself, and it was tough to figure it out because we are all taught that we are either gay or straight and that there's nothing in between. Bisexuals can prefer one gender or another (bisexuals are the only orientation that can have an actual "sexual preference") but still have some level of attraction for the other. Now, statistics on how many bisexuals there are are near impossble to get because even if they are bi, most people pick one or the other to identify as because it just makes life easier. The straight community labels you gay and shuns you and the gay community can label you as striaght and shun you as well. Don't be afraid of the queer part of you, but that doesn't mean you have to ignore the straight part.
As for why she's still interested, I think I can speak for a lot of girls when I say queer boys are hot. Girls tend to get along much better with gay men than straight men, and two hot guys together... let's just say I have my own share of gay male porn despite a very sexually satisfying girlfriend. Own the bisexuality. It won't help you meet guys much, but that's never been hard for either gender. It can, however, help with the ladies.
2006-07-26 14:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by scruffy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 Some!
2006-07-26 21:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by quizzed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot answer your question fully but you are at least bi, probably gay and it feels good to "have a girlfriend" of course it does it makes you appear straight, and trying to convince her with intimacy, no, she is not important, did you convince yourself? I am not saying that you cannot be straight, it happens, but don't let fear of the unknown lead you down a distructive path, where you have a wife and kids and cannot love her due to the fact that everything in you needs to be with another loving gay male, of course you know, i am speaking from experience, its hard to decide what to do..but one thing for sure, if you are gay, you're gay, you can live straight, but you will always want men, its how you were created.
2006-07-26 21:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by batai_68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something in your behavior has given her some clues. She may find you to be somehow different from other guys she has been with, and has a sense of these things. And if she cares for you, she wants you to be happy. I know it can't be easy telling your girlfriend that you get off on gay porn tho. Think this one through!
2006-07-26 22:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Crisco21, watching gay porn and everything else in between pretty much spells it out: G-A-Y! Deal with it ... tell your girlfriend that you will keep her on as a hag ... that way she gets what she wants too .. which is a gay guy to hang out with!
1- shop together
2 - you can make out together
3- you can even share a bed
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4 - she will get really attached when you meet guys ... she'll get jealous ... she'll probably stalk you .. then in a year or two when you haven't seen her .. you & your BF will laugh about it and be glad she is gone.
2006-07-30 00:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that because you have gay fantasies and have watched gay porn that this classifies you as gay or even bi-curious. I think you are a normal red blooded male who has normal sexual thoughts. Because I guaran-damn-tee that there are a good bit of men who have had the same type thoughts that you have but would cut off their testicles before admitting to it!!!!
2006-07-26 20:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that she cared enough, and felt comfortable enough to bring this to you. Just by being intimate with someone does not answer any doubts, just be honest and tell her how you feel. First though, you need to do some soul searching of your own, because you aren't sure yourself. Good luck with your journey of self discovery. And please don't push yourself.. or her away in the process, you have the rest of your life to figure this out.. there is no hurry..
2006-07-26 22:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by blah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a gay guy and from what you are saying, i think that you are gay... pretty damn gay at that
lol no offense i dont want to get you mad.
but it seems like you are struggling to accept it and you are trying to do whats right by the society standards. i can totally see your pain.
its i had tons of female friends that knew i was gay before i told them and the asked me the same questions like, if i was ever curious. i think she knows that you are gay, but wants you to be honest with her. its definately possible that she can be one of your best friends if you come out to her like, very soon.
it can sort of be like a "Will and Grace" thing that you two have. Good luck in life and just try your best to make sure that YOU are happy. remeber when it comes to you, YOU are #1
2006-07-26 21:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by Darmcc15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls are bi and they want to share with their partners. She probably enjoys it any thinks you will, too. Ask her if she wants to see you make out with another guy. If she says yes, let her set up a date so you can experience it and decide for yourself.
2006-07-26 23:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by debbysfemail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she sees something in you that you haven't acknowledged yet in yourself...maybe she still cares very much about you in spite of this...maybe this is her way of testing you.....you have no idea where she is coming from on this one..YOU"RE RIGHT--and the next move is hers.
2006-07-26 20:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋