My husband travels alot and sometimes I dont feel like taking his calls,will he suspect infidelity?

Question

The conversation is always the same,like a courtesy call,I could have been sick all day and never asks me how i feel.Will this do the trick?

Answer 1

thats pretty sad. if hes your husband and you love him and he is taking the time out of his day to call you the least you could do is talk to him. i would jump at the phone if my husband called me after being away. i would miss him like crazy. if you have a problem talking to him when hes away then why are you with him?

Answer 2

Sure why not, either that or pick up the phone and run through your part of the conversation real quick (without waiting for his part) then hang up, or do something like saying yes i'm feeling so much better now thank you for asking, what a sweetheart you are...have the conversation you would like to have, even if its just you doing the talking. he'll get the picture eventually. If he suspects infidelity and asks about it just say i'm not cheating i just don't see the point in having nothing conversations so when you start calling because you REALLY want to talk to me i'll start answering.

Answer 3

You know some men just arn't sociable on the phone.
Men are very different than women when it comes to communication.
It sounds like you have expatations of how you want the phone conversatons to go and he isn't liviing up to YOUR expectations.
This is a huge lack of communications

Either give him some slack becasue he doesn't have phone skills or some time when he is home talk to him. Don't threaten him, just nicely ask if when he calls you from out of town it would make you feel better if he said things like. "how are you" And then listen to what you say.

If you can't change him, then YOU need to change HOW you react to him. It sounds like to me that you set yourself up for disappointment. This will grow into something bigger than it is.

If you dn't trust him, why did you marry him?

Your question doens't make total sense.Do you mean HE susspect you of infidelty? or him. You aren't clear

Answer 4

Don't play games when there is distance involved - too many misunderstandings can arise and can get bigger than you want them to - just next time he calls - tell him that you had a nice day too thank you or that you were home ill all day - and he'll probably get the message that he SHOULD have asked. Don't miss one of his calls.... my husband is deployed and my heart breaks anytime I miss a call by genuine accident -- so I beg you for those of us whose husbands are in danger's way and away from us - don't play games like that (as tempting as it may be)

Answer 5

I love my husband very much, however sometimes I just don't feel like talking, so what. Just don't answer the phone when you feel that way and say you were in the shower. A little white lie to avoid hurting his feelings is OK. I do think that I would say something to him though. You should be able to do that, if he gets mad about it , tell him to grow up. Everyone needs time to themselves sometimes.

Answer 6

i dont think he will suspect infidelity. you have to remember, men like to chase and hate to be chased. this can be trick in a marriage. maybe keep the conversation short and sweet and talk to him in detail when he comes home.

Answer 7

i'm not sure. i was having the same problem with my boyfriend a couple of months ago. I just came out and told him that I felt like he didn't care about me. I wasn't asking for much, just the basic, "are you ok?" I just reminded him the world doesn't revolve around him. The same goes for your situation. He needs to treat you right, especially since you all are married. Remind him of yhe vows you all took.

Answer 8

Sounds like you have much bigger issues with your marriage that you both are not addressing. If he trusts you then you should have no reason to worry about not answering the phone. But if you are not answering the phone cuz you are bored with a man that is gone all the time.....I feel sorry for you.

Answer 9

I would say you a more serious problem than you avoiding his calls! Its called communication and its key to any successful relationship. You clearly don't have this. I would find a way to improve your communication or just go ahead and file for Divorce now and get it over with.

Answer 10

He may or may not suspect infidelity, but he definately will feel unloved and unappreciated. It is your duty as his wife to take his calls. Just as he should do for you.