my husband and i had a fight?

Question

and then he rudely said that " you're the one that always want to **** me...I don't..! " that hurts a lot.... he watch porns a lot and chat on line..... What would you do if you're in my shoes?

Answer 1

In addition to its links with sexual violence, porn is believed to be contributing to the break-down of marriage and family life in our country, as well as the rise in extramarital sex,and venereal disease. Porn portrays sex independant of love,committment,and responsibility and as such the eventual break-down of the marriage for the ones who watch it. I"m sorry dear, " porn" is bad news any way you look at it. And it pretty much says that your husband is already addicted to the stuff, just by the fact that he also has " phone sex". Watching it is not enough, he's taken the next step up by talking out sex, next he will be going out to look for the real thing.
If your husband figures for one minute that he's not hurting you in any way because he is not actually physically having sex, he's deluding himself, big time. In fact every time he engages in this type of activity he is commiting adultry to your mariage. When he married you he took a vow " never to hurt you" " to love, honor and obey". When your hubby turns to the internet for on-line sex, to the phone for phone sex, he's broken everyone of his marital vows to you, and that honey is " grounds for divorce".
What to do? Try and talk to your hubby, tell him that he is hurting you and that he is being unfaithful to you and that your seriously concerned that he may need addiction councelling to overcome the desire he feels to engage in such activities. If your hubby cannot adhere to his marital vows, honey there is not a whole lot you can do except to move out and try to rebuild your life or stay with him and put up with his unfaithfulness. Lets hear what happens to you, honey, as we do care. God Bless.

Answer 2

He was on the defensive. He knows that just the opposite is true, that he would have a much harder time doing without it than you would. It was a remark calculated to upset you and get a rise out of you. What would I do, if I were you? Watch porns a lot and chat on line. He will be the first to come running to you.

Answer 3

Ask him why he looks at porn instead of you. Porn is very addictive and what happens is he'll pleasure himself without you knowing and that leaves you out. Catch him; then explain to him that you feel neglected and you don't feel close any more and tell him you want him to need you for that again. Catch him first so it will put him in the position to know you're right. Make it look like you caught him without making it look like you've been spying. If this works out you have to offer sex to him so he isn't tempted to go back to porn.

Answer 4

Sheila,

Are you reading ANY of the answers to any of your other questions? You need to get to counselling. If you are truly in a situation where you've only been married a short while, are not having a physical relationship with your husband, and he is constantly chatting online - you two NEED professional help.

Answer 5

well i am 21 and i have been maried for almost 1yr so i dont ve much experiance in the whole marrage thing but i am tottaly against porn in a relationship it makes me very jeleous some others dont mind it and thats fine but i just think its degradeing and as 4 the chat thing is it just friendly or... he should really b chating i think its a cause worth having a good chat about tell him how you feel i think u should put your foot down!!!

Answer 6

Sounds like he is addicted to porn and internet chat stuff. The reason I say that is because it is so highly addictive, and he is prolly getting hooked and out of control, which leads to low self-esteem. He wants to take it out on you, no doubt.

He needs to get some counseling. Most likely he will not stop on his own. Contact Dr. Phil, or go on his web site and see what is there.

Be careful that he does not bring down your self-esteem, which ultimately will lead to beating yourself up emotionally and allowing him to do the same. Get counseling!

Answer 7

my boyfriend and i watch porn together. and we don't fight. you husband is a, a s s hole. you both need to sit down and take it out. he is wrong to be like that. he has no business on the chat or watching porn. you both should be one. when one of the partners are on chat and porn it causes trouble in the marriage. he has no business taking to you like that. he should have his face slap. no man should treat their wife like that. is called abuse. i hope everything works out for you. i wouldn't put up with that.

Answer 8

I'd make sure it was a darn long time before I wanted to **** him again. What a ridiculous thing to say. Tell him that since you have been criticized and put down by simply wanting your husband you won't be bothering him about it anymore, hand him a bottle of lotion and tell him to have at it. He needs to be made to think before he speaks and he needs to understand that words can have lasting consequences in a relationship, so show him what his words meant to you.

Answer 9

just sit him down and tell him how you feel about how he watches porn and such you should let him know how you feel if he has a problem with that you should tell him how much it would mean to you if you just discussed it if he says something rude im not sure he really cares much.

Answer 10

Whats good for the goose......let him "catch"you looking at some porn!Give him a taste of his own medicine.What he said was just to hurt you and it worked!Dont believe the dipsh*t.