I had struggled most of my life with being mixed, though I do relate to one side more then the other. I have resloved it be saying "fck it" I just try being the best me I possible can. I was wondering if there are others who have struggled with this and how do you deal? What's your story?
2006-07-26 12:43:13 · 8 answers · asked by shiva 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I struggled with it growing up because I look mostly black but am half Asian. I am close to my Asian family but my black family is back east and I don't know them that well. there are more blacks where I live and i drifted towards that identity as a kid but i did feel like an impostor when I saw my mother every day. Of course I can't blend in physically with Asians so I didn't really kick it with them, and felt kind of guilty about it.
It has always been an issue, but as i got older I started embracing who I was and now I'm comfortable with who I am. I developed a witty racial sense of humor which I think is a coping mechanism, and it is good to talk to other mixed people because we share something in common(although you might find not a whole lot in common other than being mixed). Society tends to pigeon hole you depending on appearance but you know who you are inside. I find it comforting to study the history and culture of both my racial sides. At times it still is awkward cause' I have duel identities(black to the outside world, black/Asian to me) but I confident and proud of who I am now.
2006-07-26 13:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Alloy Boy 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I look white and I am mixed. Yes, it's extremely difficult. I have also encountered racism from both sides and from an idiotic white mother who would unleash her anger out on a child who constantly reminded her of a mistake that she regretted. That's why I am against mixed couples having children. Like I said, I look white and have always passed for white. Only my relatives and boyfriend know what I really am. Not my friends (that I have had for years) and not anybody else. I don't tell them because my experience has been that people get very weird about that like they watch what they say around you and everything. I am and have always been a very confused, self conscious human being. I can tell you though that it does get better with age and after 30 you do get like "f*ck it", but it is always there. You just deal with it by being strong. You are strong to be born like this. Not very many people can relate to you. At least you can say you are not a weak person. It just is what it is and you never asked for it so accept yourself. You owe it to yourself to at least accept yourself. You did not do this.... you are just here. You will find in life that people that really love you love you no matter what you are. And if they don't, you don't need them.
2006-07-26 20:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK lets see, my Grandmother is native American. I have traced my fathers line right back to Scotland, the lowlands so who knows how much scotch I have in me or English. My mother is Irish. But her Father was German and his Mother was English. My father's side of the family Came to America in 1625. Who knows how many mix up marriages there were in that length of time. At one time or another all these different ethnic group were pr educe against one or another at one time or another. It might be a struggle with you now. But give it 10 15 years, there will be allot of interracial marriages than there are now, 25 years and they will be common as dirt.
2006-07-26 20:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by James L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to,because it was difficult for me to find people like me or who look like me.And then I get treated differently and just like I am invisible,but being mixed is a great thing because you are not just one thing but more and you are more likely to be unique,creative,etc....but the thing is some people thing that us mixed people don't belong anywhere and that just because we come from two different places or races that we can't fit into either one,whatever to what they say and they don't know anything.So don't listen to them,be proud,and hold on strong,there are other people like you.Good luck.
2006-07-26 19:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sophia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think soon mixed people are going to be in the majority. I mean who cares anymore what someone is mixed with. No one is going to be pure anything in a while
2006-07-26 19:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by h nitrogen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In school the black females would get a little jealous of me sometimes. They hardly talk to me. A lot of times they would tease me and say I had "good hair". I have no idea what the f*** that means. Anybody who can fix their hair and make it look good has "good hair". The majority of females that I have gotten along with were other mixed females.
black/ indian. black/korean. black/white- etc.
2006-07-26 20:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm okay with it. I'm feeling lazy here's my answer to a similar question:
http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Av5NEno6muykIi29CXR6EkjAFQx.?qid=20060726124434AAZKh8t
Btw I've always been most attracted to men of mixed race, so that helps me feel ok about myself.
2006-07-26 19:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh it gets annoying when someone tries to tell me iam only this race because my skin color, but other than that screw them i know who i am, and yes i relate more to one side of my race but only because iam closer to that side of the family, i still dont deny the other side of my race though
2006-07-26 20:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by incubabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋