My fiance lives in N\Y I live in Canada we weren't together for the past 7 months..
Last Sunday nite he told me he'll be online ...but time past and he didn't so I decide to call him but he didn't not answer...I tried to call him every hour no answer...(he usually answer)...When he arrived home (11.30pm)he send me and IM and he started to chat like nothing happen I ask him "where were you "....he ignored me and he said "I love you"...I asked him again he said the same thing...then he said I was fixing my car it broke down.....I just know that was a lie cuz he could have answered his phone if that was true...so I logged off ...
He tried to call me Once since Sunday night but I didn't answer...so I called him a few mins ago and he started to curse and yell at me when I asked him why he didn't answer..he told me if I can't shut up and just beleive him..I should leave him and he have no problem if I leave...it hurt so much..we were together for 7 years.. Do you think he's cheating?
2006-07-26 12:42:46 · 27 answers · asked by Blondie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't say he is cheating per se, but something is definitely wrong. After all this time to tell you if you left him he wouldn't care sounds awfully mean and combative to me. If you were first together I would say it might be just a test to see if you would stick with him in thick and thin, but after seven years, I am more inclined to think he is up to something. Play it by ear at this point, but don't beg him or stick with him if you are not sure, it is not worth the time and the hurt you will have time after time. Good luck and I hope you find peace with the relationship, and if not, that you find the strength to find someone out there that will appreciate you for you.
2006-07-26 12:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating. That is why he could not explain where he had been and that would also explain why he was so snappy with you on the phone. He is just TOO defense to be telling the truth! You need to end it. There MUST be trust in a long distance relationship be glad you found out now instead of after years of marriage. Dump him;this situation will only lead to heartache for you! You can do better! MUCH!
2006-07-26 19:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets not jump the gun here. 7 years is way too long of a time to just let go of. Besides, u have no proof that he actually cheated on u, it's all an assumption.
Let things cool down a bit and see if u can talk to him regarding this matter again. You should give him the benefit of the doubt at this point of time.
2006-07-26 19:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be cheating ...but this is now not confirmed...
Just because he did not lift up his cell for two hours does not mean he is cheating...If this is the first time than juts apologise to him and being trusting him .... if not ...is he has been doing this from a long time...try to sneak into his personal thiings and try to find out yourself...if not confront him ... but just give him a chance this time...
Next time...ask him to prove he was in such an such a place to a particular time...
Be careful...do not nag if he has not done this previously....
2006-07-26 19:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Larissa_J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh he is soooo cheating on you. you really should leave him. long distance relationships dont work out all the time. you both have to have trust and be honest with one another. and if one person is not honest then it wont work out.
you know what you could do? is ask one of his friends to find out if he did fix his car or not. but when you say that he never answered, then that rings a bell.
im sure he was out with some girl.
you need to talk to him and tell him that you dont like it when he never answers the phone. tell him that you two need to fix things bettween you two and if not then your leaving.
no need to stay with someone who talks to you so mean and doesnt answer your call
2006-07-26 19:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tried to evade the question, he IS hiding something. I wouldn't necessarily say cheating, I mean, you do need more evidence. What you should do is not get mad, don't accuse, but ask him. Make sometime to go see him. 7 years is too long to just let it go like that. I would definitely find out more. I really wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-26 19:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by xcelix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cuz he dosent answer his phone dosent mean he is cheating. Is this a online deal or was yall together for 7 years as actual dating? Maybe you should give him a chance and see if if happens again. Let your heart judge for you
2006-07-26 19:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you say you two haven't been together for 7 months? Maybe he needs time to readjust to the relationship. Distance makes a relationship difficult. If you want to continue the relationship then tell him you are sorry. I do think he was cheating on you. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't even care if he isn't with you?
2006-07-26 19:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by ilovedragonflies6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight..........., you think he's cheating based on the fact that he doesn't answer his phone??????? Hmmm???? Has he ever given you a reason to think he's lieing.... or cheating??? Unless you catch him red handed.... or there is other "evidence" of him cheating...then I wouldn't worry about it !!! But honestly.....just because he doesn't answer the phone is not enough of a reason to accuse him of something you do NOT know for sure he is doing. If you continue this way.. .you may lose him.
2006-07-26 20:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be that possibility he is. Is this the first time he has acted like this towards you? You need to have a conversation with him and find out if there is anything behind the scenes, and go from there.
2006-07-26 19:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋