I am generally a very happy person and I have a lot of good friends. But this one woman has been just evil towards me, nice to my face... but lies about me to others behind my back. I've distanced myself from her socially because I tried being direct with her (Why are you doing this?) and she did this phony "I have no idea what you are talking about" thing. At first she was just annoying and now it is really starting to p*ss me off. I know for a fact she has been slandering not only me, but now is being crappy about my family. And yes, although the temptation is great to go over to her house and slap the crap out of her, we're not in high school anymore. LOL. Any suggestions for dealing with the anger I feel? What do you do when someone just p*sses you off?
2006-07-26 12:42:18 · 4 answers · asked by :) K-smiles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks 4x4 Woman! :) I have been trying to kill her with kindness and I know that my true friends are just rolling their eyes at her. But when no one is looking and I am by myself, I just wanna throttle her sorry neck, lol.
2006-07-26 12:50:49 · update #1
Venting helps but that could cause a whole different set of problems. Anger is not abnormal, it's usually a reaction to something that we feel justified in being angry about.
That's probably not all that helpful, but my point is don't beat yourself up about being angry. As long as you control your actions you can be as angry as you want.
You say you've confronted this person and there's still no resolution to the cause of your anger.
Maybe instead of confrontation a healthy dose of ignoring is warranted.
I know you probably don't want to hear this right now, but my wife is a MASTER at this; Be nice! Really! It's the old, "sugar/honey vs. vinegar treatment."
For most of my years I'd not even give the technique a second glance. I have been "Mr. In-Your-Face " for most of my life. A few years ago, (when I developed high blood pressure) I started consciously disregarding things that I had previously considered affronts to my person. I even started using my wife's "be nice" approach to life's inevitable obstacles. Guess what? It works! My blood pressure is good and I don't give a rat's behind what so-in-so has to say about me or anything or anyone else.
Life's short, don't sweat the small stuff.
2006-07-26 13:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dahs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always heard pour on the kindness. You see if she knows she is getting to you that gives her the fuel to keep doing it. If you act like nothing is wrong and you are always nice to her not only will she start to feel bad for talking about you but the people around her will start to see she is full of crap. Stay Humble.....
2006-07-26 12:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When someone makes me so mad that I could kill them.. I just stay away.. I don't have anything to do with her/him.. and when I see that person in public... I pretend I don't even know them.. that really makes em mad..
Pretend you don't even know who she is next time you see her, or better yet.. pretend you don't even know she's there. After a few more nasty rumors.. it will stop.. because she will see that it's not affecting you anymore. She's only doing it because it affects you.
2006-07-26 12:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and avoid this lady. If she wants to be that way to you, let her. Then someday she'll see that your ignoring her and she'll finaly give up.
2006-07-26 12:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋