My mother told my younger sister that I was trying to make her jealous, when that was the furthest thing from my mind. I gave answers to her questions and she went to tell our mother everything i said....All i told was the plans i was going to make to change my life for the better!
2006-07-26 12:37:53 · 17 answers · asked by mznezza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am moving to another state with boyfriend of 10 years, and they dont like him I assume because he is outspoken I guess, but overall, I love him and he has changed for the better.
2006-07-26 13:03:10 · update #1
I struggled to raise my kids on my own, and it was and still is a struggle. I gave more help than I received from my family and it hurts, but i feel i need to show my kids how to be strong and independant.
2006-07-26 13:07:31 · update #2
People who don't succeed don't want to see other people succeed because it makes their life seem worse. They don't want to say, "she did it, why couldn't I have? What was wrong with me?" So they resort to protections which include trying to keep people from trying, and should that fail, they will say, "see, I told you so." Becuase winners and those whom succeed have a long list of failures behind them. It's inevitable. So the losers always get to win a couple of times which will help to break your will. This is why you can't hang out with losers.
Number one rule of success: Learn from your failures and build upon them.
Number two rule of success: Hang out and associate yourself with winners and those who succeed. They will support you in your endeavours, help you figure out where you could have done better, and at the sametime you will see firsthand that success is never just given to someone, it is always earned by someone that believes they deserve it.
And remeber this: "The majority of men/women meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail."
2006-07-26 12:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly; some family roles, such as the "black sheep" can never be outlived or transcended in the eyes of the dysfunctional people that helped create that role! I am the oldest and the adventurer, I have never been given the support that my younger siblings received.My family labeled me forever! I am not and never was the label they tried to apply to me, but some people try to put you down to make themselves feel better! It really is a huge loss to families when they cannot accept and love each other unconditionally! You should not have to do all the work though. A healthy exchange is a must for your own mental health. Only you can decide what you will and will not accept as love; choose wisely!
2006-07-26 12:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by motherpeanutbutterbutinsky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HEAR you more tha you think. I go thru the same thing. The reason they tare you down is because there not happy with themselfs and they ****** up there past. So seeing you getting ready to do better makes them feel bad about there past. Its easyer for them to see you do worse than them THAN; for you to make them look worse. When In all actuallity you make them look vary well!.... But they dont get that; BUT as long as YOU do-- That is all that matters. Prove to them that you know what your talking ABOUT and prove to them they cant and WONT tare you down even if they know what your going to do every step of the way--- that makes you look like such a strong/confident person and even if they dont admitt it--later they will be proud of you and glad you set your SISTER a better example then they obviously have and can~
2006-07-26 12:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ma is jealous. Take it from me being the only child, working full time with a job I enjoy, with a brand new car and marriage in the plans. My mom once admitted that I have a lot more than she ever did at my age (21). So, please don't let anyone's jealousy or bitterness get in the way of your goals. Stick by them and you will be so proud of what you have achieved. Good luck!
2006-07-26 12:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let stupid people tear you down ever. Even if it is your own mother. You dont have much choice with your mom, but you can limit her involvement with you or what you discuss with her. If you have a boyfriend or other friend that does not support you, move on.
I have seen mothers ruin weddings because they were so jealous of their daughter's wedding.
Stay on your path.
2006-07-26 12:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound to me like your mother is the one with issues I have never known a mother to bring trouble between her children and as for your sister she should have kept what you told her to herself instead of bringing you mother in to it. You just keep your head up and keep your goals in place you will make something of yourself and they will see that all they did was push you to do better so you could get the Hell away from them.
2006-07-26 12:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your mother is not proud of what she had done, or hasn't done, in her life and is trying to poison your sister's mind to growing beyond your mother's station in life. You should continue to strive to better yourself. DO NOT listen to failures. Why would you want to listen to the advice of someone who CAN'T do something, NEVER tried to do something and has NO belief in himself that he can do better? Set your own course, follow it and find the pot of gold that's out there waiting for you at the end of your hard-work rainbow. Decide to achieve and never look back...
2006-07-26 12:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is the worst thing that can hold you back in excelling in life. Your mom or dad can become jelous of you and they will tell you not to do things because they dont want you to be better off than they are in life.
2006-07-26 12:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family can be very difficult sometimes, you just have to learn to defend yourself as best as you can to maintain the image you want for yourself, don't let your family get away with creating you into a person that you're not, no matter how annoying and frustrating it may be.
2006-07-26 12:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by caitymercede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl stick to your plans!
no matter what is being said you can only do you, continue to let them do them...
sometimes we look for validation in our families eyes..STOP, turn around and face the mirror that's where your validation comes and goes from!
Push on girl, be strong you can do it.
2006-07-26 12:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋