my husband still contact his ex-wife for the medicine that he need to take. knowing that im his wife now, why he ask help from his ex,, even im here.... plsss give me advice. and good explanation,.
2006-07-26 12:34:13 · 11 answers · asked by Lyn S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1.) ( Cleave) When both of you got married, you promised to give yourselves freely, completely and forever to each other, with no reservations and " no secret alliances" with old associates, including " ex-wives".
2.) ( Consideration) When a man marries, he has someone else to consider besides himself in all decisions.
3.) ( Communicate) When a couple stops talking and listening to each other, so does the marriage.
I would seriously sit down with your husband and talk about this with him. I'm sure once its open for discussion, that the two of you can find a way to work through this. Find out and learn what kind of medicine he takes, talk to his doctor and so on. Remember you are his wife now and his help-mate. God bless!
2006-07-26 12:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i can only think of 1 of 2 reasons why he is still calling his x wife about this..
1. because if she was there in the beginning of when he first started the medication or with the illness, he feels a comfort with her knowledge of whats going on compared to someone that is new to the situation and doesnt feel like your knowlegable yet to consol about this certain situation.. although u can sympathize its not the same as when 2 people actually went through something major together.. also does she have any medical background that he would feel when he needs "free" medical advice to talk to her..
2.. If its not the above, then he still has feelings for his x and is using this as an excuse to communicate with her still ..
Although its totally wrong for him to be doing this since he is now married to u..
But do try to understand when a couple goes through something major even when they arent together any longer.. sometimes they feel the only person that can really relate to them is the x.. My son is chronically/terminally ill.. I cant stand my x husband, but at times i need him to tell me everythings going to be ok with our son.. because although my new husband can sympathize with me.. he doesnt feel what im feeling for my son.. like my son's own father does.. so tramatic situations can cause a bond with someone even if theres no love there for that person..
But he needs to get over it, if your relationship with him is being destroyed because of it.. he needs to choose u over her..
Good luck..
2006-07-26 12:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First how long were they married and how long have you been married. It might be just out of habit. I depended on my ex for a lot and when I got with my current husband I still caught myself asking him what he would do. Just talk to your husband and see what he has to say he might not even realize he is doing it as much as he is.
2006-07-26 12:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't "need" my wife. Never did. I chose her because I wanted to be with her, not because I needed to. I hope she chose me for the same reasons. We have a partnership built on mutual strengths, not mutual weaknesses. Neither "needs" the other. Both love being together.
Understand the difference?
ps. Why would he need you, or her, to get and take his own frigging medicine? Sheez....
2006-07-26 12:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you not a believer until "death do us part"? Honestly, if he has been married before he is still married to that first woman. God has told us that marriage is forever. Perhaps your boyfriend realizes this too and misses his wife. I would leave. If he isn't your husband and chances are he's probably not, you are only committing adultery by being with him. Pray about it. :)
2006-07-26 12:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's bull sh** . you need to tell him its either me or her. i wouldn't put up with that. you need to take to him and let him know it hurts you when he keep going to his ex. he need to tell her it over once and for all and you will take care of his needs. not her. if that don't work you call his ex and you tell her she don't need to do that anymore and you are his wife know. that she need to get a life of her own and leave the both of you alone. it's only going to cause problems for the both of you in the long run.
2006-07-26 12:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think there is no reason that he would need her to help him get his medication. So if he still wants to be around her that is what he will tell you. And i think that is pathetic. He needs to tel you why he still feels the need to be around her. If he wants someone to talk to then he should look to you. Not Her.
2006-07-26 12:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the x wife you'll take care of his needs .
2006-07-26 12:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might still have his heart and you are a way of paying her back. If you are pretty and thin he might of married you as a payback to make his ex jealous.
2006-07-26 12:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by soollddiieerr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him
2006-07-26 12:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋