and on those 2 days also one whole day he will be working on computer and the 2nd day he will just do his things whatever he wants but he never plays with his 2 yr old or atleast love him once or see him he dont even help a bit, if i ask for help he says he cannot help me with household work nor look after his 2 yrs old. but he dirty whatever i clean or he asked me to do all the work and and when i keep his luggage ready for him to leave he just leave sometimes even without telling me and his 2 yrs old. though i dont know driving he dont like to drop me to supermarket to buy a things and bring me back when i am done he just tell me that i dont know driving and unless i learn driving he dont like to help me at all even to bring a gallon of milk . Should i live with this man who is so selfish?
2006-07-26 12:25:01 · 12 answers · asked by kiran123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Assuming you've already tried talking to him about this, you should go on strike. Stop doing all the things he expects you to do. You should still take after your son, but let the care of your husband's needs slip a little and he will take notice. The very first time he says anything to you about then tell him why you are doing it. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not a dictatorship.
2006-07-26 12:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has a heart, he will deeply regret the time he should have spent with his child, but didn't. Sometimes, neglect or rejection can be as hard on a child's psyche as physical abuse. In fact, neglect is emotional abuse and it has lasting effects on children, in their formative stage that will last a lifetime. Children that do not have a father in the household will never know the difference, but children who do have a father in the household, but he neglects or ignores them will forever be scarred by the rejection that they do not understand. The child will always blame themselves because they think the parent knows all and does everything correctly. Therefore the child has to assume that there is something wrong with himself and suffer from a loss of self-esteem for a lifetime.
Your husband has to be told that he is being selfish and that if he doesn't want to be a family man, then he can leave and regret it for the rest of his life. What was his father-son relationship with his father? The issue of neglect and rejection and not acting like he is your partner in taking care of the family is not at all healthy for the family. I know a father who was like this and both of his children have moved away, don't keep in touch and don't want to have any children of their own. I can only imagine the pain they must carry around forever because of neglect.
2006-07-26 19:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by MancalledDad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like there is a lack of comminication between you two, so try talking to him about how you feel. Also, look for avenues on how to be self-sufficient. You can now order groceries online, and you can take driving lessons and ask the instructor to pick you up from home. You can't rely on him for everything or else you're not going to be able to do anything independently.
2006-07-26 19:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that i have tolerated it this much is amazing. i think u should find some one who will love u and appreciate u for what u do. and ur child needs a proper father figure not a man who comes and pays no attention to him. and i wouldnt be surprised if he is cheating on u thats y he is not paying attention to u. no one deserves to be treated this way. respect urslef and ur son and leave this guy.
2006-07-26 19:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds just awfull if he loves you he sure has a funny way of showing it that is not what a relationship should be like i think you should move on you deserve more in life than just that you need to be kissed you need to be held and told that you are loved he is far to selfish to do that so he doesnt deserve even a minute more of your time
2006-07-26 23:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by nothing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to drive and become very independent.. then leave him.. He obviously does not care about you or your child... & find someone who does
2006-07-26 20:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by cinsaint1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave in a heartbeat. This is no kind of life for you.
2006-07-26 19:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!!! But you need to learn to drive
2006-07-26 19:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probably got another woman
2006-07-26 19:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope this isn't in the U.S. ...we abolished slavery long ago
2006-07-26 20:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by wizendwizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋