I love my boyfriend very much. We have been friends for 8 years and have been dating on and off for about 2. He always says things like those pants make u look like a S*u* and like get ur f* a** over here and just really hurtful things. He always says hes just kidding. Am i just taking things to personally?
2006-07-26 12:03:36 · 14 answers · asked by kelly09620 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
F*ck him, life is to short to be treated like sh*t. Its time to start looking for another frog to kiss, Princess…
2006-07-26 12:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by psychoticlawnjockey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are taking things personally. I'd wonder about him if my boyfriend spoke to me in that manner. You are a human being and deserves all the respect from him. He may think he's playing and maybe it was cute when he did it the first few times. But after some time, that kind of behavior can get anybody fed up. See, you never put a stop to it from the beginning and that's why he kept on doing what he did. In his mind he probably thought it was okay. If he's hurting your feelings, you definitely should have a word with him. Just tell him very calmly, "you know, I prefer if you didn't talk to me in that manner because you really hurt my feelings when you do that." Remember, he's not a mind reader and for the most part, guys can't read body gestures, so he'll never know that it's hurting your feelings. One thing I have to tell you, but he has a lousy way of being funny. Hope it works out for you!!
2006-07-26 12:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks he's being cute, and he has an inferiority complex.
I knew someone who used to do that all the time, and his wife told him the reason people don't like him is because he insults them. She was lucky because he was really looking for the reason people didn't like him. He totally changed and became the most charming, sexy guy in the world.
You can try to talk to him, reason with him, say it in a way that won't put him down. Maybe you can share this story with him. Try to do it in a way that doesn't attack him personally.
Remember, these are the practice years. If you don't like what he's doing, you don't have to put up with it. When you get married, you're stuck.
2006-07-26 12:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by susansjobs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are definitely not taking things to personally! No one should be told those things. Especially by someone who you love and care about!!
Chances are your boyfriend is always insulting you because he has low self esteem. He most likely doesn't feel adequate to you. He thinks he may loose you if he doesn't make you feel bad about yourself. Hes trying to make you think that you cant do any better! If he is feeling bad, he wants to bring you down with him!
I think you need to pull him aside and really discuss how it makes you feel. Let him now what he is doing is not acceptable! Later, if he still acts this way, and he knows its hurting you, Then you really do deserve better and should reevaluate why you are still with him.
2006-07-26 12:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ri Ri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jacka$$! No you aren't taking things personally, cuz if you were you'd tell him to go fu
2006-07-26 12:31:55
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you will be treated how you allow people to treat you.
generally people that do that have low self-esteam and need to belittle others to make themselves feel better. He is trying to show dominance over you it sounds like - treating you like a child vs adult. If you are okay being treated that way, stay with him. If not, tell him that you will no longer tolerate his comments because they hurt you; and if he continues you will walk. Be prepared to walk.
2006-07-26 12:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by 2thseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-07-26 12:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is a jerk. He has a self esteem problem not you. Get him out of your life and move on. You deserve much better then being stuck with that loser.
2006-07-26 12:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking about it with him, if that don't work, then its time to find someone else who treats you with a lot more respect. Nobody should have to put up with that!
2006-07-26 12:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by amandameibeyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't like it and you don't tell him hurtful things about himself then you shouldn't have to take it. if you keep listening to him i think eventually you'll start to believe him and it will lower your self esteem. you're not taking things too personally. tell him that it hurts you. if you respect yourself then he should learn to respect you too. if he disagrees then he's probably not worth it. stand up for yourself. if you don't then who else is gonna do it for you?
2006-07-26 12:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by harps21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋