My divorce will be final soon and I have been meeting other people since. For some reason I always find something wrong with them and decide they're not for me. I could be missing out on something and my brain is not functioning. Is this normal?
2006-07-26 11:43:58 · 32 answers · asked by awhisper 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had the same problem. I realize now that all the things I loved about my ex I wasn't finding in these other men. But it changed. And it is normal. Do you walk right into a store and grab any pair of shoes and pay for them, walk out and be happy as they are pinching and squishing your feet and on top of that making your pedicure look bad. No !!!!! So give it time and shop girl shop!!!
2006-07-26 11:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by cowgirlup64 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most , in fact, 99% of all people out there are nuts. It's very true. No doubt about it. The pity parties they give themselves are hilariously funny though. Not making a funny thing out of this, but that is also very true.
We only want to meet the 1% that isn't.
It begins with open communication, because this builds trust.
In a world filled with so many insane people, they are also the reason why we have so many friendships but few genuine ones. Most will use us for things that they are too lazy to get for themselves, while faking sincerity at the same time , just to make us feel needed. 99% of all people out there do this.
We need genuine friendships too, because that will last a lifetime with us.
We have values and need to share them with those that have similiar values as well..
Honesty
Trust
Respect
Caring
Sharing
Appreciation
a Sense of Humor
Unconditional Love.
It helps to have interests in life. I would suggest doing something that you've always wanted to try but somehow never did or never got around to doing that. When you join clubs that share the same interests, you also find people that think the same way as you do, because they can relate to what you like to do and all.
Remember, sometimes we meet up with people who are completely nuts, and that is why we have to have elections every 4 years ! ( LOL)
2006-07-26 11:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met your love got married and it didnt work. The next person has to be better and has twice as much to live up to. Enjoy your freedom, make the best of yourself. When it happens it happens. Why do you have to look for it its not like your a teenager and have never had it!You might spend the next ten years searching night clubs or the internet only to drop your parcel in the post office 11 years down the line and meet that perfect person. If youve forced it you may be stuck again with someone not so special again!(and you may miss that person in the post office)
2006-07-26 11:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by helen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that's what happens when you've been with a person for so long that after a breakup you tend to compare every date with your ex-significant other. Every guy has a flaw, your ex-hubby might have had many, when you meet someone you click with you'll enjoy him and then once your settled into a relationship you will find that he too is imperfect and want someone else allover again. That is why it is wise to try to work things out no matter how uncooperative hubby is, I'm not saying even if hes beating you or cheating on you, that's a different issue.
God Bless!
2006-07-26 11:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by dreamingsome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep meeting ppl and don't push a romance!You aren't over the last relationship yet. Settle yourself and enjoy group dating or parties but don't worry about the one. You may even pick out a copy of the one you just left! Consider the things you like and dislike and what you really want and then only date those types men, never compromise because you may have a sexual infatuation that could end in preg or be mixed up in legal issues or anything neg. and then you figure out you really don't like the guy, he was just hot!Slow down and enjoy life. Best wished!
2006-07-26 11:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal because you have been through a lot. It just a matter of time when you will feel relax again and be not as picky as you are right now. Once you are confident again, the pickiness subsides but of course you will know what you are looking for in a man because we learn from the past.
2006-07-26 11:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal seeing as you settled before and in doing so now it's ending up in a divorce. Take you're time, be picky. You deserve it I mean It's you're life and you have to live with the decision you make. So make the best of it.
2006-07-26 11:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Broken hearted in the bronx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that you have a right to be picky. I mean you can either stomach their personality, looks, education, job and living situation, etc. or you cant! You shouldn't go out with someone that you know you will get sick of in 3 months based on the pure thought that "you might be missing out on something." Go with your gut...you know what you like, go for that.
2006-07-26 11:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you're just getting through a divorce right now and you want someone like your husband, but since they're not you just think you're being picky.
2006-07-26 11:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by mathura529@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't U expect 2 suffer a lil apprehension?
It's quite normal 2 B a lil guarded 4 a while, give URself time.
Or mayB UR simply not "Clicking" with any of 'em.
& 1 day U will, give it time.
2006-07-26 11:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋