I hate giving oral sex to my wife. When i have done it in past it made me feel sick. She is angry and says she will find another man that will please her. Why do women insist on oral?
2006-07-26 11:32:05 · 13 answers · asked by larry t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, "all" women do not "insist" on oral. You shouldn't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. However, if you're unwilling to give -- you shouldn't ask to receive.
What is it that makes you uncomfortable? Is your parnter clean? If it's unpleasant odor she may have an infection of one sort or another and should be seen by her physician.
2006-07-29 06:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Inquisitor-2006 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't clear whether you want real help with this issue, but here goes. It sounds like one or both of you have a 'hang-up' about this particular method of sexual contact. It makes you feel sick for reasons you did not specify. She 'insists' on it and this could be for several reasons. Sometimes when we realize that our beliefs were actually imposed on us by others (such as when we were kids), we can more easily adjust our thinking when appropriate.
You:
Why do you hate it? Why does it make you sick? Have you really, really thought about it? Your statements lead one to believe that this strong feeling is deeply rooted in another issue. Some men believe that female genitals tend to be unclean and this idea can go way back with some guys. It might be worth trying to figure out where your ideas about giving and receiving oral orginated and if they have any impact on your current situation.
Her:
If she truly in insists, she may also have deeply rooted ideas and expectations about her pleasure and your role in the bedroom. She may have subtly and not-so-subtly communicated these ideas and expectations to you over the years to the point where she is at her wit's end, you feel very pressured and you both are in a gridlock over the issue. She may want to look at why she feels so strongly about receiving oral and when it became such an essential part of her pleasure. Sometimes I hear women say that they can only have an orgasm in one specific position. Well, how is that possible? It is because they have it stuck in their minds that this is the only (best, fastest, etc.) way it will happen. We all have ideas about sex that are formed from something in the past and that can be difficult with which to be flexible.
You may never decide to appreciate the technique. She may never change her desire for you to perform it. However, if the issue is really this big, it deserves some thought before one of you takes a more drastic step.
2006-07-26 12:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by tiaraontop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women insist on oral. This is something that you should have discuss before marriage and if this was going to be a problem she should have left you where you were. Now if you want to keep your wife just learn to like it. You know why because women learn to likes things about their over the top husbands. So take breathe and drop to your knees and give her what she wants.
2006-07-26 11:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women dont like oral sex crazy girls if u ask me. y do u hate giving your wife something she really n joys. have u talked 2 her about it yet, tel ll her u just dont like it, crazy guy if u ask me. u have a dilemma on your hands because there r men out there who will please her. have a oral sex day wher u give it to her lets say twice a month then u can prepare yourself and b ready 4 it do u enjoy getting your ***** taken care of if u do and she does it that's selfish on your part.
2006-07-26 11:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by mf mf mf mf mf fmf mf mfmfmfmfmf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you did you have oral sex before you are married and if you don't like then you shouldn't done it first place and she wouldn't marry you....
common sense dude. I don't blame her, I do enjoy giving my wife oral sex and she with me for 9 years and i don't care how old i am and will still do oral sex she would do for me too.
2006-07-26 11:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just looked at your other question too. Maybe you should just let your wife go if sex to her is more important than your feelings. If she hasn't already cheated on you she probably will in the near future. Find a good woman who cares about you and your feelings. And lose your Friend too, he doesn't seem to care about you either.
2006-07-26 11:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Share Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever had your d!ck sucked??? well for women it is 3 times more sensitive. Also you might not be giving her orgasms when you fu(k her. Ask her to stimulate her cl!t while you penetrate her, guarenteed to make her (um quicker. maybe will help lay off the oral. also you should try good head. put it on her pu$$y and it helps the taste and smell. Happy Fu(king...
2006-07-26 11:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women don't insist on it maybe your wife and some others but that sounds stupid to make such a general statement. I would love it if my wife insisted on it so if you don't mind send your wife to me I love it.
2006-07-26 11:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u like oral? if the answer yes then u should give your wife oral.
2006-07-26 12:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you guys, I love going down on my wife. Nothing gets me off like watching her get off. Plus it would be a little tough asking her to do me if I did not do her.
2006-07-26 11:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋