Is it natural to worry about adultery after you have had 2 marriages fail due to that reason?

Answer 1

Yes. It's completely natural.

Answer 2

Think about the question you just asked. Why would you worry about a thing like that? Can you do anything about it? Was it your fault or his? Apparently someone isn't ready for marriage. If I had to divorce ten men because they disrespected , and downright destroyed the sanctity of marriage I would. I think committing adultery is the lowest form of disgrace a wife or husband could commit. I'm not perfect nor am I holier than thou, but as a person with some moral upbringing I'd have to know this is wrong, and a sin. Natural to worry is not the correct way of asking. Anything natural should be good for you. If this hasn't happened yet in this marraige don't worry about it. If it has happened throw the bum out!

Answer 3

Yesterday is history. You made mistakes. But you have also paid your dues. You have to forgive yourself, lay this to rest, and move in to the future. Allow yourself to love again. Use your past experiences as a reason to beware of the pattern that lead you down that path. I firmly believe that "out of something bad, comes something good." Its a sign that nothing stays the same. Focus on what you can do to make your next marriage or relationship successful. Positive thinking, heals all mental wounds.

Answer 4

What you need to do is realize the adultery occurred because YOU did not take proper care of HIM. Men are dumb animals and do not stray unless they are ignored or improperly serviced by their woman. Keeping them drained prevents them from straying. Learn to do what You do better and more often the net time. Perhaps you never learned to act like a hooker. Be nasty with the man in your life and try different things. Having the same old treatment becomes boring to guys and their fantasies demand they try others. Work the fantasies out with him and He will be your puppy.

Answer 5

Of course. Good thing to do is go through a Marriage Counsilor and if your religious also go through your priest or whomever will be marrying you guys. If your already married. Talk to him about it, maybe also go to a marriage counsilor. Or if you know its not time for the marriage counsilor you should go alone to see a therapists. Also TALK to your hubby or HUBBY to be. open communication is always key. Foold me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me. is what i like to use. tell him how you feel and what you think. dont be too confrontational about it though or anything. Be open with one another. also dont devote your whole time worrying or trying to see if he will cheat or is cheating.. dont also devote your every waken hour and minute making him happy...its 50/50.. just talk to him about it.

perhaps u should take some time off from men and relationships or women.

if ur the cheater than go seek help maybe theres a chemical inbalance or something.or mental issues

Answer 6

Yah. Of course. Try looking for a different type of guy then you usually go for. Also remember this is a new guy so don't automatically distrust him b/c of your past lovers, he didn't do anything to you yet. Don't give him too much trust either. When you meet a new guy, ask your friends what they think, and take their insight to heart, b/c they are on the outside and can give you a better look at things. Good luck sweetie!!!

Answer 7

Not only is it natural but it is intelligent as well. I heard that 60% of men and 40% of women will engage in infidelity. And then you have to factor in the ashamed people who would lie if asked about such a thing. Trusting people with your heart will always be risky.

Answer 8

Of course...the key is to realize that if you spend your energy worrying about if your next love is going to cheat on you then you will not be spending your energy loving them which is just as devastating to a relationship. Unfortunately the best thing you can do is let go of that fear and continue to risk your heart rather than letting those past failures control your future.

Answer 9

No, you don't worry about them, just try to prevent them. Temptation is always going to be outside of a marriage, and trying to avoid dealing with it is a full time job. So, just let it be understood up front to your spouse that you've had more than your share of it and will let go willingly if it happens.

Answer 10

If you are the cheater, then just don't cheat. If you were cheated, then it depends. You may just be attracted to personality traits typically expressed by unfaithful people. You may have just been unlucky a couple times. If you're not positive you can trust someone, then don't marry that person. If you're not positive you can be faithful, then don't ruin someone else's life.