My husband and I own a repair shop we recently hired a young worker. His mom brings her car in to have work done. Recently my husband and I got into a argument over work. He left our home and was staying elsewhere. When we got back together which I forgot to mention we have been married for 37 years one of my close friends stated that my husbands worker asked my husband would he like to go out with his mother. When I came back to work the young worker could not look me in the eyes then I knew that it was true. So I let the young worker go and what is also strange is that his mother never brings her car in for repairs anymore. Did I do wrong?
2006-07-26 11:09:46 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You did lose a customer out of this, but its better then you being unhappy. You will get more customers and you can always find a new employ. Maybe you should focus on why your guys argument went so far, be careful things aren't going on behind your back. I'm sorry about your troubles.
2006-07-26 11:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your post, honey, I believe that your not a young couple from the fact that you mentioned you were married 37 years, ( that's a committment, for sure). I do believe that you did " jump the gun" prematurely. From what I've read, it sounds like you've stooped to your young worker's level of behaviour. And perhaps his mother doesn't bring her car in anymore, could be because you let her son go and not for any other reason. I mean in that he has no job now. Seriously honey, for a couple who have been together for the number of years that you two have, I wonder what happened to the trust part inyour relationship. Wouldn't it have been more better to talk to your husband and find out the facts first. You more or less acted on hear-say and instinct. Which makes life rather difficult because it's built up around second-guessing in all that you do and say. Not to mention that the young fellow has no employment because of his actions, wheither he did or not, also, just by the fact that he is young tells me that if he did, it was irrational on his part, but he is young! Your husband on the other hand would have been the better to approach and discuss the " gossip" that you heard. I mean 37 years is a long time and I'm sure your husband is " no fool". And the young fellow's mother must be an intelligent and mature woman that doesn't need her son to find a man for her, really now.
Yes Honey, I believe that you sort of went over on this one. To rectify the situation a good discussion with your husband would be the starting point and perhaps give the young man back his job, with an apology and a word of warning to him about " who's the employer and who's the employee" would be appropriate.
2006-07-26 11:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a second. You and your husband were separated. Your husband dated another woman while you were separated and not living together. The woman happened to be the mother of one of your employees. So you fire the kid because you were jealous.
The mother never brings in her car for repairs. Hmm, maybe your shop fixed the problems? Maybe if there were still problems with the car she got angry because your place didn't fix the problems. O, here's one: maybe the mother is angry at you for firing her son for no other reason than you can't handle the fact that your husband was trying to get on without you.
I think the kid should look into wrongful termination.
You totally overreacted.
2006-07-26 11:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pappa Poopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did right for everyone involved if the worker was so uncomfortable there that he could not even look at you he will be happier somewhere else. if he would have stayed you would always be wondering if he would do that again and that would be hard on your marriage and as far as your husband my preacher always says keep away from the temptation and you wont be tempted so much.
2006-07-26 11:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by dydy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing.Looks like you hit the nail on the head!Now you do all the hiring in the business- Go ahead and hire a nice looking handsome man,Someone you don't mind looking at or being around.All the best and Good Luck!
2006-07-26 11:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words in some circumstances, and this was one of them. Now you can approach your husband with this so he can get his lies out of the way, and decide if you are going to keep your 37 yrs going. I had to let mine go after 31 yrs because once he went out with the last young one, he got his nose opened to the point of totally disrespecting ME. There were several whom I approached over the years & he never stopped, so now he's gone.
2006-07-26 11:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why fire the kid when your hubby is the one suspected of infidelity? You shoulda had a fling with the young worker & then you would be even. Remember this the next time he picks a fight so he can go out with a client!
Good Luck
2006-07-26 11:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have over reacted a little. However; since its your business and you need to concentrate on the profits, the boy had to go. Its too hard to work within strained environments. Personally, it should have been your husband to let the boy go. Oh well, good luck to you and your husband reunion.
2006-07-26 11:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you do wrong? No, I think not. He left your house, stayed somewhere else, and went out with his co-worker's mother? I would have fired the husband!
2006-07-26 11:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have worked on her car already its not like you going to go out of business because she isn't bringing it round, you did what you needed to do, l don't know if its right or wrong only you can tell whats good for you.
2006-07-26 11:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋