My ex-boyfrend and his fiancee, a woman I dated and was best friends with for two years, is getting married this August. The break-up with the man was about as horrible as any break-up ever could be. For about a year before the break-up, the three of us were a committed manage a trois, and we expected to live together in the future.The woman and I never really broke up, we still see each other every once in a while, but the romance is pretty much gone. We're still friends, though I tend to avoid her fiancee because he didn't take the break-up very well.
They sent me a wedding invitation this morning. I don't know what to think of it- if they sent me an invitation, does that mean they want me to go, or they want to be polite and fully expect me not to go? Do I look rude if I don't go? I don't know if I want to go, though most of my friends will be there, and I'd like to give the couple a gift and let them know I'm happy for them. I just don't know what the polite thing to do is.
2006-07-26 11:06:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you honestly feel that its going to cause a serious problem them just tell them the truth about what you feel and how you feel, an maybe send them the gift through mail or diliver it personally give your wishes and go if you dont want to be rude. Nothing wrong with that,
2006-07-26 12:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by mzpanther205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go!i dont think they just sended 2 waist paper,or so just 2 be sercastic,they invited u 'cause u 'ven part of their lives,in my point of view,i dont see whats wrong w/goin',but the question is 4 u ,do u wanna go? if yes ,go!if not is ok,but make sure is not because of u r doubs of the invitation,think twice,it would be pretty rude n u will give them the idea that u dont wanna go b'cs of the past u guys had.
2006-07-26 11:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by don 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO!GO! GO!
Maybe you would feel better if you just went! You and she are still friend, and do you want to let go of that friendship? If not go! Let the man know that it is all good. That you can be a friend!
You will find yourself more at peace after all is said and done.
LOL
2006-07-26 11:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats tough, im kinda in that issue right now. i invited a good friend and his wife to come but were not friends anymore and i dont know how to handle that. i want them to but i dont want them to feel obligated. I guess you need to decide and if they meant something to you even if your relationship isnt the same, life is short, still go and just dont continue to talk to them later on after, or don't. its up to you in how you feel.
2006-07-26 11:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by starbucks_girl37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be interested to see what the other responses you got were ~ That said , I'd go if I were you ~ If your feeling uncomfortable at anytime , you can always leave , right ?
Who knows ...you might even meet someone nice
good luck
2006-07-26 11:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by wayno227 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
return the rsvp with your regrets, but send them a gift to show that you support their relationship. attending would be tacky and could create unnecessary tension. if you're ever asked later by them why you didn't attend, simply tell them you had another commitment.
2006-07-26 11:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by cdmmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. go wish them your best & have a good time. if you wernt wanted there you wouldnt have got an invite.
2006-07-26 11:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by lady pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say no but if you wanna be polite then go or fake an injury
2006-07-26 11:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by mz queen bre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're living an x-rated soap opera and you're worried about being polite??????????
2006-07-26 11:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how you want it to go if you were marrying the guy ? would you want her to come ?
2006-07-26 11:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋